Do you want to be like your father or mother?

Probably you can think of many admirable things about your parent that you would be happy to display yourself. But what if a person honestly saw that his parent’s way of life ran counter to some Bible principles? Of course, he would not rebel openly against such a parent. But in view of how strong parental influence is, a son or a daughter in that situation would need to put forth sincere, persistent effort to develop ways or attitudes that did not follow the parental pattern. Yet it would be worth doing so, especially if this would bring the offspring closer to God, our heavenly Father. We can see this from the interesting Biblical example of Asa.

THE COURSE ASA TOOK

In the 10th century B.C.E. Asa became king of Judah. His father Abijam (Abijah) had set a bad example; instead of zealously trusting in Jehovah God, Asa’s father tolerated idolatrous practices at “high places” of false worship. In this, Abijam was “walking in all the sins of his father,” Rehoboam. (1 Ki. 14:22-24; 15:3) So do you think that Abijam’s son Asa could break away from the unfaithful pattern? Or, would it be, “Like father, like son”?

The revealing history recorded in the Scriptures shows that Asa did not follow in the steps of his father or grandfather. “Asa proceeded to do what was right in the eyes of Jehovah, like David his forefather.” Yes, he chose not to be like his immediate father, or even his grandfather. He patterned himself after his great-great-grandfather, David, in zeal for true worship. The Bible goes on to say about Asa: “He had the male temple prostitutes pass out of the land and removed all the dungy idols that his forefathers had made.” (1 Ki. 15:11, 12; 2 Chron. 14:2-5a) He carried on a vigorous campaign against idolatry.

THE TENDENCY TO SLIP

Anyone who has chosen to be different in some respect from a godless parent may find that continued effort is needed in order to cultivate a Christian personality. For some time a person may seem to succeed in being different, but then slip back into the pattern of his godless parent when he grows older or comes under special pressure. We can note that danger from Asa’s life.

It was “in the thirty-sixth year of the reign of Asa”b that Israelite King Baasha made a move against the southern kingdom of Judah. To prevent his subjects from deserting to Asa, Baasha began fortifying the border city of Ramah. Instead of continuing to trust in Jehovah’s protection, Asa resorted to intrigue. Asa bribed Syrian King Ben-hadad to break his covenant with the Israelite 10-tribe kingdom. Syrians raided Israelite cities in the north, forcing Baasha to stop his building work and to withdraw his forces from Ramah. Asa mustered his subjects and also invaded the territory of the 10-tribe kingdom. They seized the building materials at Ramah and used these to do building work at Geba and Mizpah.​—2 Chron. 16:1-6.

However, Asa’s faithless action did not escape the notice of Jehovah. Through his prophet Hanani, God told Asa: “You leaned upon the king of Syria and did not lean upon Jehovah your God. . . . Did not the Ethiopians and the Libyans themselves happen to be a very great military force in multitude, in chariots and in horsemen; and because of your leaning upon Jehovah did he not give them into your hand? For, as regards Jehovah, his eyes are roving about through all the earth to show his strength in behalf of those whose heart is complete toward him. You have acted foolishly respecting this, for from now on there will exist wars against you.”​—2 Chron. 16:7-9.

On hearing these words, did Asa humble himself? No. He took offense, commanding that Hanani be imprisoned. Asa also began to oppress some others among his subjects. The final three years of Asa’s life were not happy ones. He suffered from an affliction of his feet, possibly gout. But in this case, too, he did not look to Jehovah God for help but sought the aid of healers who may have resorted to occult means in an effort to bring about cures. After having ruled for about 41 years, Asa died.​—1 Ki. 15:23, 24; 2 Chron. 16:10, 12-14.

Asa’s life demonstrates clearly that we cannot ignore the influence of our parents, an influence for good or for bad. But Asa showed that “Like father, like son” need not be an inevitable rule.