UNDENIABLY, parenting is hard work. But holding back discipline when it is warranted makes the task even harder. Why? Because without discipline (1) children continue to be unruly, which exhausts the parents, and (2) parents give inconsistent direction, which confuses the children.

On the other hand, loving, balanced discipline can train a child’s thinking and shape his moral character. It also helps children feel secure as they grow to responsible adulthood.

THE BIBLE SAYS: “Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child.”​—Proverbs 22:15, footnote.

Although children can be delightfully thoughtful and kind, they are also inclined to do foolish things. Therefore, children need discipline. (Proverbs 13:24) Acknowledging that fact will help you fulfill your responsibility as a parent.

THE BIBLE SAYS: “Do not hold back discipline from a child.”​—Proverbs 23:13, footnote.

You need not fear that balanced discipline will damage your children or cause them to resent you later in life. When lovingly administered, discipline will help your children learn to accept correction humbly​—a skill they will need even as adults.​—Hebrews 12:11.

THE BIBLE SAYS: “Whatever a person is sowing, this he will also reap.”​—Galatians 6:7.

Parents naturally want to protect their children, and rightly so. Again, however, balance is needed. You do your children no favors by “rescuing” them from the consequences of their errors or by defending them when a teacher or another adult brings real misconduct to your attention. Instead, view those people as your allies. In so doing, you teach your child to respect authority​—including yours.​—Colossians 3:20.