Think about what others have done to help you, and express appreciation for their efforts. Jesus set an outstanding example in this regard. For instance, when his friend Mary poured expensive oil on his head and feet, some asked: “Why has this waste of the perfumed oil taken place?”a Those critics felt that the oil should have been sold and the money given to the poor. Jesus replied: “Let her alone. Why do you try to make trouble for her?” Then he added: “She did what she could.” (Mark 14:3-8; John 12:3) Rather than focus on what Mary did not do, Jesus expressed appreciation for what she did do.