Iu Savvy Winim Olketa Problem wea Savvy Spoelem Famili

1. Wanem nao samfela problem wea haed insaed long samfela famili?

OLKETA just wasim finis and polisim gud oldfela truck bilong olketa. Pipol wea go pass lukim truck hem shine olsem niu wan. But underneath long truck, rasta go ahed for spoelem. Diswan hem semsem long samfela famili. Nomata long eye bilong pipol evri samting go ahed gud, smile long olketa face insaed famili hem haedem fraet and pain. Taem olketa stap long haos olketa no gud samting go ahed for spoelem peace insaed long famili. Tufela problem wea savvy mekem diswan kamap hem fasin for drink olawe and raf fasin.

WAY WEA FASIN FOR DRINK SPOELEM FAMILI

2. (a) Wanem nao Bible say abaotem way for iusim alcohol? (b) Wanem nao fasin for drink olawe?

² Bible hem no againstim way for drinkim alcohol long balance way, but hem againstim fasin for drunk. (Proverbs 23:20, 21; 1 Corinthians 6:9, 10; 1 Timothy 5:23; Titus 2:2, 3) But fasin for drink olawe hem meanim moa samting winim fasin for drunk; hem meanim for tingting olawe long alcohol and way wea man no savvy bossim haomas alcohol hem drinkim. Olketa full-grown man savvy kamap man wea depend long alcohol. And sorry tumas, olketa young pipol tu.

3, 4. Story abaotem hao fasin for drink olawe hem affectim waef bilong man wea drink olawe and olketa pikinini.

³ Longtaem bifor, Bible showim aot hao way for iusim alcohol long rongfela way savvy spoelem peace bilong famili. (Deuteronomy 21:18-21) No gud samting wea kamaot from fasin for drink olawe hem affectim full famili. Waef bilong man wea drink olawe maet busy tumas for trae for stopem way wea hasband hem drink or deal withim olabaot fasin bilong hem.a Hem trae for haedem drink, torowem, haedem shilling bilong hem, and askim hem for tingim love for famili bilong hem, for laef, and for God tu—but man wea depend long alcohol hem still drink. Taem hard work bilong woman hia hem fail, hem feel kros and feel olsem hem no fit for duim eni samting. Hem maet start for suffer long way for fraet, kros, guilty, seksek, worry, and no respectim seleva.

⁴ Way wea dadi or mami hem depend long alcohol hem affectim olketa pikinini tu. Samfela taem dadi or mami hitim them. Otherfela they spoelem them long saed bilong sex. Olketa pikinini maet ting say olketa nao duim rong samting dastawe dadi or mami savvy drink olawe. Planti taem hem hard tumas for olketa trustim eniwan bikos long olabaot fasin bilong dadi or mami wea depend long alcohol. From olketa no feel free for story abaotem samting wea happen insaed long famili, olketa pikinini maet learn for haedem olketa feeling bilong them, and planti taem diswan spoelem them. (Proverbs 17:22) Olketa pikinini olsem maet no trustim and respectim seleva taem olketa kamap full-grown man tu.

WANEM NAO FAMILI SAVVY DUIM?

5. Hao nao for deal withim fasin for drink olawe, and why nao diswan hem hard?

⁵ Nomata planti pipol say hem hard for healim man wea drink olawe, planti say man savvy kamap beta sapos hem stop evribit for drink. (Lukim Matthew 5:29.) But, for mekem man wea depend long alcohol for acceptim help hem no easy samting, bikos planti taem hem no ting hem garem wanfela problem. Nomata olsem, taem olketa member long famili duim samting for deal withim samting wea kamaot from way wea hem drink olawe, maet hem start for luksavvy hem garem wanfela problem. Wanfela doctor wea garem savvy for helpem olketa man wea depend long alcohol and famili bilong them hem say: “Mi ting firstfela important samting hem for famili for go ahed long evriday living long way wea show aot they strong. Then man wea depend long alcohol hem lukim klia hao long bigfela way hem different from olketa other wan insaed long famili.”

6. Wanem nao best ples for kasem kaonsel for olketa famili wea garem wanfela member wea depend long alcohol?

⁶ Sapos samwan wea depend long alcohol hem stap insaed famili bilong iu, kaonsel bilong God long Bible savvy helpem iu for garem living wea followim best way. (Isaiah 48:17; 2 Timothy 3:16, 17) Tingim samfela principle wea helpem finis olketa famili for win taem they deal withim fasin for drink olawe.

7. Sapos wanfela member bilong famili hem depend long alcohol, hu nao mas givim ansa?

⁷ No tekem full blame. Bible hem say: “Each wan bae karem load bilong hemseleva,” and, “each wan long iumi mas givim ansa for hemseleva long God.” (Galatians 6:5; Romans 14:12) Dat wan wea depend long alcohol maet trae for say olketa member bilong famili nao mekem hem olsem. For example, hem maet say: “Sapos iufela showim aot gudfela fasin long mi, bae mi no drink.” Sapos olketa other wan agree withim hem, olketa encouragim hem for go ahed for drink. But nomata iumi kasem no gud samting from living or from otherfela pipol, iumi evriwan—and olketa wea depend long alcohol tu—mas givim ansa for samting wea iumi duim.—Lukim Philippians 2:12.

8. Wanem nao samfela way for helpem dat wan wea depend long alcohol for face-im olketa samting wea kamaot from problem bilong hem?

⁸ No ting say iu mas evritaem protectim dat wan wea depend long alcohol from olketa samting wea kamaot from way wea hem drink. Wanfela proverb bilong Bible abaotem samwan wea kros hem fitim tu wanfela man wea depend long alcohol: “Sapos iu sevem hem, bae iu go ahed for duim moa and moa.” (Proverbs 19:19) Letem dat wan wea depend long alcohol for kasem samting wea kamaot from way bilong hem for drink. Letem hemseleva klinim evri dirty wea hem mekem or ringim boss bilong hem long nextfela morning bihaen hem drink for talem why hem no go work.

9, 10. Why nao famili bilong olketa wea depend long alcohol mas acceptim help, and help bilong hu nao olketa mas lukaotem?

⁹ Acceptim help from otherfela pipol. Proverbs 17:17 hem say: “Wanfela trufela fren hem show aot love evritaem, and hem wanfela brata wea born for taem bilong trabel.” Taem samwan wea depend long alcohol hem stap insaed famili bilong iu, trabel hem stap. Iu needim help. No hold back for depend long olketa ‘trufela fren’ for supportim iu. (Proverbs 18:24) For story withim otherfela pipol wea meanim datfela problem or wea face-im sem kaen samting maet givim iu samfela gudfela idea long wanem for duim and wanem for no duim. But mas balance. Story withim olketa wea iu trustim, olketa wea bae keepim “secret toktok.”—Proverbs 11:13.

¹⁰ Learn for trustim olketa Kristian elder. Olketa elder insaed Kristian kongregeson savvy givim bigfela help. Olketa mature man hia garem savvy from Word bilong God and savvy long way for followim olketa principle bilong hem. Olketa savvy kamap “olsem wanfela ples for haed from wind and wanfela ples for haed from bigfela rain, olsem wata wea ran insaed long ples wea hem drae, olsem shadow bilong wanfela bigfela stone long hotfela ples.” (Isaiah 32:2) Olketa Kristian elder protectim full kongregeson and comfortim, strongim, and show aot interest long each wan wea garem olketa problem. Kasem gudfela samting from help bilong them.

11, 12. Hu nao savvy givim barava bigfela help for olketa famili wea garem samwan wea depend long alcohol, and hao nao hem givim datfela support?

¹¹ Winim evri samting, kasem strong from Jehovah. Bible givim iumi disfela comfort: “Jehovah hem stap klosap long olketa wea heart bilong them brek; and hem savvy sevem olketa wea spirit bilong them pisis.” (Psalm 34:18) Sapos iu feel olsem heart bilong iu brek or spirit bilong iu pisis from olketa hevi wea kamap taem wanfela member bilong famili hem depend long alcohol, luksavvy hao “Jehovah hem stap klosap.” Hem meanim hao famili living bilong iu hem hard tumas.—1 Peter 5:6, 7.

¹² Way for believim samting wea Jehovah talem insaed long Word bilong hem savvy helpem iu for deal withim worry. (Psalm 130:3, 4; Matthew 6:25-34; 1 John 3:19, 20) Way for studyim Word bilong God and for live followim olketa principle bilong hem bae mekem iu fit for kasem help bilong holy spirit bilong God, wea savvy strongim iu withim ‘paoa bilong God’ for deal withim each day.—2 Corinthians 4:7.b

13. Wanem nao mek-tu problem wea savvy spoelem planti famili?

¹³ Way for iusim alcohol long rongfela way savvy mekem narafela problem wea spoelem planti famili hem kamap—raf fasin insaed famili.

NO GUD SAMTING WEA KAMAOT FROM RAF FASIN INSAED FAMILI

14. Wanem taem nao raf fasin long famili hem start, and waswe long distaem?

¹⁴ Firstfela raf samting wea happen long history bilong olketa man hem raf fasin insaed famili midlwan long tufela brata, Cain and Abel. (Genesis 4:8) Start kam long datfela taem, planti different kaen raf fasin kamap insaed famili. Olketa hasband wea hitim waef, waef wea attackim hasband, dadi and mami wea whipim no gud olketa young pikinini, and olketa big pikinini wea spoelem dadi and mami wea olo.

15. Raf fasin long famili hem affectim olketa member bilong famili long wanem way?

¹⁵ No gud samting wea kamaot from raf fasin long famili hem no just long saed bilong body nomoa. Wanfela waef wea hasband bilong hem hitim hem, hem say: “Iu mas deal withim way for feel guilty and feel shame. Planti morning, iu no laek for get ap, iu hope hem wanfela no gud dream nomoa.” Olketa pikinini wea lukim and kasem raf fasin long famili savvy kamap raf taem they grow ap and garem famili bilong themseleva.

16, 17. Wanem nao raf fasin long saed bilong feeling, and hao nao hem affectim olketa member bilong famili?

¹⁶ Raf fasin long famili hem no meanim for hitim nomoa narawan. Planti taem, diswan meanim toktok tu. Proverbs 12:18 hem say: “Toktok bilong man wea tok olabaot hem olsem sword wea katem man.” Diskaen way for “katem man” wea hem part long raf fasin insaed famili hem way for kolem man long enikaen no gud nem and for shout tumas, tok spoelem hem evritaem, tok daonem long no gud way, and toktok for duim raf fasin. Olketa kill long saed bilong feeling they samting wea otherfela pipol no savvy lukim planti taem.

¹⁷ Samting wea no gud tumas hem for spoelem pikinini long saed bilong feeling—for evritaem tok daonem samting wea pikinini duim, tingim, or hem olsem wanfela person. No gud toktok olsem savvy spoelem way wea pikinini trustim hemseleva. Hem tru, evri pikinini needim discipline. But Bible say long olketa dadi: “No mekem olketa pikinini bilong iufela kros evritaem, nogud iufela mekem heart bilong olketa hevi.”—Colossians 3:21.

HAO FOR MISSTIM RAF FASIN INSAED FAMILI

18. Wea nao raf fasin long famili hem start, and wanem way nao Bible showim aot for stopem diswan?

¹⁸ Raf fasin long famili hem start long heart and mind; samting wea iumi duim hem start withim way wea iumi tingting. (James 1:14, 15) For stopem diskaen raf fasin, man wea duim need for change-im way wea hem tingting. (Romans 12:2) Waswe, hem savvy duim olsem? Yes. Word bilong God garem paoa for change-im pipol. Hem savvy aotem tu “olketa strongfela” tingting wea spoelem man. (2 Corinthians 10:4; Hebrews 4:12) From stretfela savvy from Bible savvy help for change-im pipol evribit, diswan hem olsem olketa kamap niufela man.—Ephesians 4:22-24; Colossians 3:8-10.

19. Hao nao Kristian mas tingim and deal withim marit partner bilong hem?

¹⁹ Way for ting long marit partner. Word bilong God hem say: “Olketa hasband mas love-im waef bilong them olsem themseleva. Man wea love-im waef bilong hem love-im hemseleva.” (Ephesians 5:28) Bible hem say tu hao hasband mas givim “honor long hem olsem samting wea hem no strong tumas.” (1 Peter 3:7) Olketa waef kasem kaonsel “for love-im hasband bilong them” and for showim aot “bigfela respect” for them. (Titus 2:4; Ephesians 5:33) Tru nao, no eni hasband wea fraet long God fit for say hem really honorim waef sapos hem hitim and tok spoelem hem. And no eni waef wea singaot long hasband bilong hem, tok no gud or evritaem hotem hem savvy say hem really love-im and respectim hem.

20. Front long hu nao dadi and mami garem work for luk aftarem olketa pikinini bilong them, and why nao dadi and mami mas no wantim pikinini for duim samting wea no fitim olketa?

²⁰ Stretfela way for ting long olketa pikinini. Olketa pikinini fit for kasem, yes needim, love and care from dadi and mami bilong them. Word bilong God say olketa pikinini “kam from Jehovah” and olketa “wanfela reward.” (Psalm 127:3) Olketa dadi and mami garem work front long Jehovah for luk aftarem disfela samting wea kam from Jehovah. Bible hem story abaotem “olketa way bilong wanfela baby” and “kranky fasin” bilong pikinini. (1 Corinthians 13:11; Proverbs 22:15) Olketa dadi and mami mas no sapraes taem they lukim kranky fasin wea olketa pikinini bilong them garem. Olketa young wan they no full-grown man. Dadi and mami mas no wantim pikinini for duim samting wea no fitim age, famili living, or savvy bilong hem.—Lukim Genesis 33:12-14.

21. Wanem nao tingting bilong God abaotem way for tingim and deal withim olketa dadi and mami wea olo?

²¹ Way for ting long dadi and mami wea olo. Leviticus 19:32 hem say: “Iu mas stand ap front long man wea garem gray hair, and iu mas kaen long olo man.” Law bilong God hem encouragim way for ting hae long olketa olo. Diswan maet wanfela challenge taem dadi or mami wea olo hem ova tumas long samting wea hem wantim or hem sik and maet hem no duim samting or tingting kwiktaem. Nomata olsem, olketa pikinini mas “go ahed for peim back samting wea they kasem from dadi and mami bilong them.” (1 Timothy 5:4) Diswan meanim for deal withim them long way bilong respect, and maet for helpem them long saed bilong shilling. For no deal withim olketa dadi and mami long gudfela way hem againstim fasin wea Bible talem iumi for followim.

22. Wanem nao barava important fasin for winim raf fasin long famili, and hao nao for showim aot diswan?

²² Mekem grow fasin for bossim seleva. Proverbs 29:11 hem say: “Kranky man hem aotem evri spirit bilong hem, but wisefela man hem stap kwaet go kasem end.” Hao nao iu savvy bossim spirit bilong iu? Winim way for letem kros hem grow insaed long iu, duim samting kwiktaem for stretem eni problem wea kamap. (Ephesians 4:26, 27) Go awe sapos iu feelim iu bae no bossim iuseleva. Prea for holy spirit bilong God for mekem iu for garem fasin for bossim seleva. (Galatians 5:22, 23) For go wakabaot or mekem body work maet helpem iu tu for bossim olketa feeling bilong iu. (Proverbs 17:14, 27) Trae hard for “no kros kwiktaem.”—Proverbs 14:29.

FOR SEPARATE OR STAP TUGETA?

23. Wanem nao savvy happen sapos wanfela member bilong Kristian kongregeson hem showim aot fasin for kros and raoa evritaem, maet for hitim olketa insaed famili, and hem no repent?

²³ Bible joinim “jealous fasin, fasin for kros, . . . raoa” withim olketa samting wea God againstim, and hem say “olketa wea duim olketa samting olsem bae no kasem kingdom bilong God.” (Galatians 5:19-21) So, eniwan wea say hem wanfela Kristian wea evritaem showim aot fasin for kros and raoa, maet long way for hitim partner or olketa pikinini, and hem no repent, olketa savvy disfellowshipim hem from Kristian kongregeson. (Lukim 2 John 9, 10.) Long disfela way kongregeson hem stap klin from olketa man wea spoelem narawan.—1 Corinthians 5:6, 7; Galatians 5:9.

24. (a) Wanem nao wanfela wea partner bilong hem spoelem maet decide for duim? (b) Hao nao olketa fren and elder savvy supportim wanfela wea partner bilong hem spoelem hem, but wanem nao they mas no duim?

²⁴ Waswe long olketa Kristian distaem wea partner bilong them hitim them, but no show aot hem want for change? Samfela choose for stap withim partner bilong them from samfela reason. Otherfela they choose for lusim hem, from they ting body, mind, and spiritual saed bilong them—maet laef bilong them tu—hem stap long danger. Samting wea man wea kasem raf fasin insaed famili hem choose for duim hem samting wea hemseleva mas decide-im front long Jehovah. (1 Corinthians 7:10, 11) Olketa fren and relative wea want for help, or olketa Kristian elder maet helpem and givim hem advice, but they mas no force-im hem for duim samting wea they tingim. Diswan hem samting wea hemseleva nao mas decide-im.—Romans 14:4; Galatians 6:5.

OLKETA PROBLEM WEA SPOELEM MAN BAE FINIS

25. Wanem nao purpose bilong Jehovah for olketa famili?

²⁵ Taem Jehovah joinim Adam and Eve tugeta long marit, purpose bilong hem no for problem olsem fasin for drink olawe or raf fasin for spoelem famili. (Ephesians 3:14, 15) Purpose bilong hem for famili kamap ples wea love and peace bae grow and each member kasem gud samting long mind, feeling, and spiritual way. But, taem sin kamap, famili laef kwiktaem go-go daon.—Lukim Ecclesiastes 8:9.

26. Wanem future nao stap for olketa wea trae for garem living wea followim olketa law bilong Jehovah?

²⁶ Iumi hapi tumas from Jehovah no lusim purpose bilong hem for famili. Hem promis for bringim wanfela niu world bilong peace wea pipol “bae garem safe living, and no eniwan bae mekem them seksek.” (Ezekiel 34:28) Long datfela taem, fasin for drink olawe, raf fasin long famili, and otherfela problem wea spoelem famili distaem bae they samting bilong bifor. Pipol bae smile, no for haedem fraet and pain, but bikos they bae “hapi tumas long bigfela peace wea they garem.”—Psalm 37:11.