Sapos Marit Hem Klosap Brek Daon

1, 2. Taem marit hem kasem hevi, wanem kwestin nao man mas askim?

LONG 1988, Lucia, wanfela woman from Italy, hem feel sorry tumas.a Marit bilong hem ready for finis, bihaen tenfela year. Hem trae planti taem for stap gud moa withim hasband bilong hem, but hem hard tumas. So hem separate from hasband bilong hem bikos tufela no savvy stap gud tugeta, and hem mas luk aftarem seleva tufela dota bilong hem. Taem hem ting go back, Lucia hem say: “Mi barava sure hao no eni samting savvy sevem marit bilong mi tufela.”

² Sapos iu garem olketa problem insaed marit bilong iu distaem, maet iu meanim feeling bilong Lucia. Maet marit bilong iu kasem problem and maet iu daot sapos iu savvy sevem. Sapos olsem, hem gud sapos iu ting raonem disfela kwestin: Waswe, mi followim evri gudfela advice wea God givim insaed long Bible for help for mekem marit hem win?—Psalm 119:105.

3. Nomata divorce kamap big tumas, hao nao planti wea divorce and famili bilong them feel abaotem diswan?

³ Taem evri problem midlwan long hasband and waef kamap hard tumas, way for finisim marit maet luk olsem hem easy way for stretem. But, nomata namba bilong olketa famili wea brek daon long planti kantri hem kamap moa big, olketa report showim aot hao planti man and woman wea divorce feel sorry bihaen. Samfela long olketa kasem moa problem long health bilong them, long body and mind, winim olketa wea decide for stap tugeta. Olketa pikinini wea dadi and mami bilong them divorce, they savvy konfius and no hapi for planti year. Dadi and mami and fren bilong famili wea brek daon they suffer tu. And waswe long tingting bilong God long diswan, Man Wea Startim marit?

4. Hao nao for deal withim olketa problem insaed long marit?

⁴ Olsem otherfela chapter story abaotem finis, purpose bilong God hem for marit mas stap for full laef bilong man. (Genesis 2:24) Sapos olsem, why nao planti marit they brek daon? Diswan maet no samting wea kwiktaem for happen. Planti taem, samfela samting happen wea olsem warning. Olketa smallfela problem insaed long marit savvy kamap big and big go kasem taem hem luk olsem hem hard tumas for winim. But sapos olketa kwiktaem for deal withim olketa problem hia withim help from Bible, planti marit savvy misstim way for brek daon.

ACCEPTIM REALLY SAMTING

5. Wanem stretfela tingting nao man mas garem long marit?

⁵ Wanfela samting wea maet lead go long olketa problem hem taem hasband or waef or tufela evriwan no acceptim really samting. Olketa love story insaed buk, magasin, television program, and movie savvy mekem man garem hope and dream wea different evribit from samting wea savvy happen long really laef. Taem olketa dream olsem no kamap tru, man maet feel olsem samwan giamanim hem, hem no satisfy, and hem kros tu. So, hao nao tufela wea no perfect savvy faendem hapi insaed long marit? Tufela need for work hard for kasem gudfela marit.

6. (a) Wanem balance tingting abaotem marit nao Bible hem givim? (b) Wanem nao samfela samting wea hasband and waef no savvy agree long them insaed long marit?

⁶ Bible savvy helpem iumi. Hem talemaot hapi wea marit bringim, but hem givim warning tu abaotem hao olketa wea marit “bae kasem trabel long body.” (1 Corinthians 7:28) Olsem iumi story abaotem finis, hasband and waef no perfect and savvy sin. Tingting and feeling and living bilong each partner hem different. Samfela taem hasband and waef no agree long saed bilong shilling, pikinini, and olketa in-law. Way for no garem inaf taem for duim samting tugeta and olketa problem long saed bilong sex savvy mekem problem kamap tu.b They needim taem for deal withim olketa samting hia, but no givap! Planti hasband and waef face-im olketa problem olsem and they deal withim long gudfela way.

STORY ABAOTEM OLKETA PROBLEM

7, 8. Sapos hasband and waef feel no gud or no meanim gud each other, hao nao Bible hem say they savvy deal withim diswan?

⁷ Planti faendem hem hard tumas for story long kwaet way abaotem olketa no gud feeling, way for no meanim samting, or samting wea they fail long hem. Winim way for tok stret olsem: “Mi feel olsem iu no meanim mi,” hasband or waef maet letem feeling kamap strong and mekem datfela problem kamap big tumas. Planti bae say: “Iu worry abaotem iuseleva nomoa,” or, “Iu no love-im mi.” From hem no want for raoa, narafela partner maet no want for ansarem hem.

⁸ Wanfela beta samting for duim hem for followim disfela kaonsel long Bible: “Iufela savvy kros, but iufela mas no sin; no letem sun go daon taem iufela still kros yet.” (Ephesians 4:26) They askim wanfela hasband and waef wea garem hapi marit, taem they kasem mek-60 year wea they marit, abaotem secret bilong gudfela marit bilong them. Datfela hasband hem say: “Mifela learn for no go sleep sapos mifela no stretem problem, nomata olketa problem hia they small nomoa.”

9. (a) Wanem nao Bible say hem important part bilong way for story tugeta? (b) Wanem nao hasband and waef need for duim planti taem, nomata sapos diswan meanim they mas garem strong and humble fasin?

⁹ Taem hasband and waef no agree long samting, each wan need for “kwiktaem for listen, slow for toktok, slow for kros.” (James 1:19) Bihaen they listen gud, tufela evriwan maet lukim need for say sorry. (James 5:16) For say withim feeling, “Mi sorry for mekem iu feel no gud,” they need for humble and strong. But for deal withim olketa problem long way olsem bae helpem hasband and waef no for stretem olketa problem bilong them nomoa, but for mekem grow tu way for fren tugeta wea bae mekem them moa hapi taem they stap tugeta.

GIVIM SAMTING WEA IU OWE-IM INSAED LONG MARIT

10. Wanem samting wea aposol Paul say bae protectim olketa Kristian long Corinth maet fitim wanfela Kristian distaem?

¹⁰ Taem aposol Paul raet go long olketa long Corinth, hem say hem gud for they marit “bikos fornication hem kamap big tumas.” (1 Corinthians 7:2) World distaem hem barava no gud olsem Corinth bifor, maet hem moa worse. Olketa dirty story wea pipol story abaotem evritaem, no gud way wea they wearim kaleko, and dirty story insaed olketa magasin and buk, long TV, and olketa movie, evri samting hia muvim pipol for barava laekem dirty fasin. Aposol Paul hem say olsem long olketa long Corinth wea stap midlwan long pipol olsem: “Hem moabeta for marit winim way for tingting evritaem for wantim sex.”—1 Corinthians 7:9.

11, 12. (a) Wanem nao hasband and waef owe-im long each other, and they mas givim diswan withim wanem kaen tingting? (b) Sapos for lelebet taem tufela kanduit for givim samting wea they owe-im insaed long marit, hao nao they mas deal withim diswan?

¹¹ So, Bible givim disfela komand long olketa Kristian wea marit: “Hasband mas givim samting wea hem owe-im long waef bilong hem; but waef tu mas duim sem samting long hasband bilong hem.” (1 Corinthians 7:3) Lukim hao hem strongim way for give—no for force-im. Sex insaed marit savvy mekem tufela barava satisfy only sapos each partner tingim gudfela samting for narawan. For example, Bible komandim olketa hasband for deal withim olketa waef bilong them “long way wea fitim savvy.” (1 Peter 3:7) Diswan hem barava tru long way for givim and kasem samting wea tufela owe-im insaed long marit. Sapos hasband no deal withim waef long kaenfela way, maet waef faendem hem hard for enjoyim disfela part bilong marit.

¹² Samfela taem hasband and waef no fit for givim samting wea they owe-im insaed long marit. Diswan maet hem tru for waef samfela taem long month or taem hem feel tired tumas. (Lukim Leviticus 18:19.) Maet hem tru for hasband taem hem deal withim wanfela bigfela problem long work and feel tired long saed bilong feeling. Sapos for lelebet taem hasband and waef kanduit for givim samting wea they owe-im insaed long marit, best way for tufela deal withim diswan hem for they story gud abaotem and “tufela evriwan agree.” (1 Corinthians 7:5) Diswan bae stopem eniwan long tufela for kwiktaem garem rongfela tingting. But, sapos wanfela waef hem meanim for no givim long hasband or hasband barava no showim aot love long saed bilong sex, diswan maet mekem moa easy for partner fall daon long test. Taem samting olsem kamap, olketa problem savvy kamap insaed long marit.

13. Hao nao olketa Kristian savvy keepim tingting bilong olketa klin?

¹³ Olsem evri Kristian, olketa servant bilong God wea marit mas stap klia long olketa dirty buk, wea savvy mekem man garem dirty and no gud tingting. (Colossians 3:5) They mas lukaot long tingting and samting wea they duim taem they deal withim narafela man or woman. Jesus givim disfela warning: “Evriwan wea go ahed for lukluk long wanfela woman for barava laekem hem, hem duim adultery finis withim hem long heart bilong hem.” (Matthew 5:28) Taem they followim kaonsel bilong Bible long saed bilong sex, olketa hasband and waef fit for misstim way for fall daon long test and duim adultery. They savvy go ahed for enjoyim sex insaed long marit wea givim hapi and wea olsem gudfela present from Man Wea Startim marit, Jehovah.—Proverbs 5:15-19.

OLKETA REASON FROM BIBLE FOR DIVORCE

14. Wanem no gud samting savvy kamap samfela taem? Why nao olsem?

¹⁴ Long klosap evri Kristian marit, they savvy deal withim eni problem wea kamap. But, samfela taem diswan no savvy happen. From olketa man no perfect and stap insaed world wea garem sin and wea stap under long paoa bilong Satan, samfela marit they kasem taem wea they ready for brek daon. (1 John 5:19) Hao nao olketa Kristian mas deal withim hardfela samting olsem wea kamap?

15. (a) Wanem nao only reason from Bible wea letem man for divorce and marit moa? (b) Why nao samfela they decide for no divorce-im marit partner bilong them wea no faithful?

¹⁵ Olsem Chapter 2 bilong disfela buk hem story abaot, fornication hem only reason wea Bible letem man for divorce and marit moa.c (Matthew 19:9) Sapos iu garem trufela proof hao marit partner bilong iu hem no faithful, then iu garem hardfela samting for decide-im. Waswe, bae iu go ahed long marit bilong iu or divorce? No eni rul stap for diswan. Samfela Kristian they forgivim partner bilong them wea really repent, and datfela marit hem go ahed gud. Samfela they decide for no divorce from they tingim olketa pikinini bilong them.

16. (a) Wanem nao samfela samting wea muvim samfela for divorce-im marit partner bilong them wea duim rong samting? (b) Taem wanfela wea no duim rong hem decide for divorce or no divorce, why nao no eniwan mas tok againstim samting wea dat wan hem decide-im?

¹⁶ Long otherfela saed, datfela rong maet lead go long way for babule or kasem sik wea kamaot from dirty fasin. Or maet iu need for protectim olketa pikinini from dadi or mami wea spoelem them long saed bilong sex. Yes, man mas tingim planti samting bifor hem decide-im wanem for duim. But, sapos bihaen iu savvy long way wea marit partner bilong iu hem no faithful, and then iu duim sex moa withim partner bilong iu, there nao iu showim aot iu forgivim partner bilong iu and iu want for go ahed long marit. So olketa reason for divorce from olketa Scripture wea letem man for marit moa they no moa nao. No eniwan mas poke-nose and trae for talem iu wanem for decide-im, or tok againstim samting wea iu decide-im. Iu nao bae stap withim samting wea kamaot from wanem iu decide-im. “Each wan bae karem load bilong hemseleva.”—Galatians 6:5.

OLKETA REASON FOR SEPARATE

17. Sapos no eniwan long tufela duim fornication, wanem nao Bible hem say long saed bilong way for separate or divorce?

¹⁷ Waswe, samfela otherfela reason stap wea savvy mekem man separate or divorce nomata partner no duim fornication? Yes, but long olketa taem olsem, Kristian hem no free for fren withim narawan withim goal for marit moa. (Matthew 5:32) Bible, taem hem letem way for separate olsem, hem say dat wan wea lusim narawan mas “no marit moa or hem mas go back moa.” (1 Corinthians 7:11) Wanem nao samfela big samting wea kamap wea maet mekem hem moabeta for separate?

18, 19. Wanem nao samfela bigfela samting wea maet lead go for samwan for ting maet hem moabeta for separate long way wea fitim law or for divorce, nomata hem kanduit for marit moa?

¹⁸ Well, famili maet kamap barava poor bikos long barava lazy fasin and no gud way bilong hasband.d Maet hem gamble withim shilling bilong famili or iusim for baem drug or alcohol wea hem depend long them. Bible hem say: “Sapos eniwan no luk aftarem . . . famili bilong hem, hem lusim Kristian faith and hem moa worse winim man wea no garem eni faith.” (1 Timothy 5:8) Sapos man olsem no want for change-im olketa way bilong hem, and maet hem tekem tu shilling wea waef bilong hem work for kasem for baem samting wea hem wantim, waef savvy choose for protectim hemseleva and olketa pikinini bilong hem long way for separate wea fitim law.

¹⁹ Way for separate wea fitim law hem samting wea wanfela savvy duim tu sapos partner bilong hem raf tumas long hem, maet hem hitim hem evritaem go kasem taem health and maet laef tu stap long danger. And tu, sapos wanfela hem evritaem trae for force-im marit partner bilong hem for brekem olketa komand bilong God long samfela way, dat wan maet fit for separate from hem, diswan hem moa tru sapos spiritual laef bilong hem stap long danger. Datfela partner wea stap long danger maet decide hao for “obeyim God olsem ruler, winim man,” hem mas separate long way wea fitim law.—Acts 5:29.

20. (a) Taem wanfela famili hem brek daon, wanem nao olketa mature fren and elder savvy givim? Wanem nao they mas no givim? (b) Olketa wea marit mas no iusim olketa reason from Bible for separate and divorce olsem excuse for duim wanem?

²⁰ For evriwan wea partner bilong them barava spoelem them, no eniwan mas force-im dat wan wea no duim rong for separate or for stap withim partner bilong hem. Nomata olketa mature fren and olketa elder maet supportim and givim kaonsel from Bible, olketa hia kanduit for savvy long evri samting wea happen long hasband and waef. Jehovah nomoa savvy lukim datwan. Hem tru, Kristian waef no honorim marit arrangement bilong God sapos hem iusim olketa small excuse for finisim marit. But sapos bigfela danger hem stap, no eniwan mas tok againstim hem sapos hem choose for separate. Sem samting hem fitim wanfela Kristian hasband wea want for separate. “Iumi evriwan bae stand ap front long judgment chair bilong God.”—Romans 14:10.

HAO MARIT WEA BREK DAON KAMAP GUD MOA

21. Wanem experience nao show aot hao kaonsel bilong Bible abaotem marit hem really helpem man?

²¹ Threefela month bihaen Lucia, wea iumi story abaot bifor, hem separate from hasband bilong hem, hem meetim Olketa Witness Bilong Jehovah and start for studyim Bible withim olketa. “Mi sapraes tumas,” hem say, “hao Bible givim olketa gudfela ansa for problem bilong mi. Bihaen wanfela week nomoa wea mi study, mi stret awe want for go back and stap withim hasband bilong mi. Distaem, mi savvy Jehovah hem savvy hao for sevem olketa marit wea kasem trabel bikos olketa teaching bilong hem helpem olketa hasband and waef for ting hae long each other. Hem no tru, olsem samfela say, hao Olketa Witness Bilong Jehovah they divaedem olketa famili. For mi, samting wea different evribit nao happen.” Lucia learn for followim olketa Bible principle insaed laef bilong hem.

22.Wanem nao evri hasband and waef fit for trustim?

²² Samting wea happen long Lucia hem no niu samting. Marit should olsem wanfela blessing, no wanfela hevi. For kasem datwan, Jehovah provide-im nambawan kaonsel for marit wea winim eni other samting—Word bilong hem. Bible savvy mekem “man wea no garem savvy for kamap wise.” (Psalm 19:7-11) Hem sevem planti marit wea klosap brek daon and hem mekem planti otherfela wea garem bigfela problem for kamap moabeta. Letem evri hasband and waef garem full trust long kaonsel for marit wea Jehovah God hem givim. Hem really helpem man!