CHAPTER SIXTIN
Strongim Gudfela Future for Famili Bilong Iu
1. Wanem nao purpose bilong Jehovah for famili arrangement?
TAEM Jehovah joinim Adam and Eve long marit, Adam talemaot hapi bilong hem long firstfela toktok bilong Hebrew poetry. (Genesis 2:22, 23) But, Creator tingim moa samting for olketa pikinini bilong hem long earth winim way for mekem them hapi nomoa. Hem wantim hasband and waef and olketa famili for duim will bilong hem. Hem talem firstfela man and woman: “Garem pikinini and kamap planti and fulimap earth and luk aftarem, and olketa fish bilong sea and olketa bird bilong heven and evri living samting wea muv long graon mas stap under long iufela.” (Genesis 1:28) Datwan hem nambawan assignment! Sapos they and olketa pikinini wea they bae garem obeyim evribit will bilong Jehovah, bae Adam and Eve hapi tumas!
2, 3. Hao nao olketa famili savvy faendem bigfela hapi distaem?
2 Distaem tu, olketa famili they moa hapi taem they work tugeta for duim will bilong God. Aposol Paul raet olsem: “Way for love-im God hem helpem iu long evri samting, from hem garem promis bilong laef distaem and datwan wea bae kam bihaen.” (1 Timothy 4:8) Famili wea followim way for love-im God and followim kaonsel bilong God insaed long Bible bae faendem hapi long “laef distaem.” (Psalm 1:1-3; 119:105; 2 Timothy 3:16) Nomata sapos wanfela member long famili nomoa followim olketa Bible principle, living hem moabeta winim way wea no eniwan followim.
3 Disfela buk hem story finis abaotem planti Bible principle wea help for mekem famili hapi. Maet iu luksavvy finis hao samfela principle hia kamap planti taem insaed disfela buk. Why nao olsem? Bikos they show aot olketa strongfela truth wea givim gudfela samting for helpem evri different part bilong famili laef. Famili wea trae hard for followim olketa Bible principle hia bae faendem hao way for love-im God hem really ‘garem promis for laef distaem.’ Letem iumi story moa abaotem fofela long olketa important principle hia.
GUDFELA SAMTING BILONG FASIN FOR BOSSIM SELEVA
4. Why nao fasin for bossim seleva hem important insaed long marit?
4 King Solomon hem say: “Olsem wanfela taon wea olketa brekem for go insaed, wea no garem wall, hem olsem man wea no holem back spirit bilong hem.” (Proverbs 25:28; 29:11) Fasin for “holem back spirit,” for bossim seleva, hem important for olketa wea wantim hapi marit. For letem olketa rongfela feeling olsem way for barava kros or feeling for wantim dirty fasin for winim iumi, bae bringim no gud samting wea tek longtaem tumas for stretem—maet hem hard for stretem.
5. Hao nao olketa man wea no perfect savvy mekem grow fasin for bossim seleva, and wanem gud samting nao bae olketa kasem?
5 Hem tru, no eniwan wea kam from Adam savvy bossim evribit body bilong hem wea no perfect. (Romans 7:21, 22) Nomata olsem, fasin for bossim seleva hem wanfela fruit bilong spirit. (Galatians 5:22, 23) Spirit bilong God bae mekem fasin for bossim seleva kamap sapos iumi prea for garem disfela fasin, sapos iumi followim kaonsel abaotem diswan wea stap insaed Bible, and sapos iumi kampani withim olketa wea showim aot fasin hia and stap klia from olketa wea no showim aot. (Psalm 119:100, 101, 130; Proverbs 13:20; 1 Peter 4:7) Way olsem bae helpem iumi for “ranawe from fornication,” nomata sapos iumi kasem test. (1 Corinthians 6:18) Iumi bae rejectim raf fasin and bae stap klia or winim fasin for drink olawe. And iumi bae deal long kwaet way withim eni samting wea spoelem iumi and olketa hardfela samting. Letem evriwan—and olketa pikinini tu—learn for mekem grow disfela important fruit bilong spirit.—Psalm 119:1, 2.
STRETFELA TINGTING ABAOTEM HEDSHIP
6. (a) Wanem nao arrangement wea kam from God abaotem hedship? (b) Wanem nao man mas rememberim sapos hem wantim hedship bilong hem for bringim hapi long famili bilong hem?
6 Mek-tu important principle hem way for luksavvy long hedship. Paul story abaotem stretfela order taem hem say: “Mi wantim iufela for savvy hed bilong evri man hem Kraest; hed bilong woman hem man; and hed bilong Kraest hem God.” (1 Corinthians 11:3) Diswan meanim man nao lead insaed long famili, waef bilong hem mas faithful for supportim hem, and olketa pikinini mas obeyim dadi and mami bilong them. (Ephesians 5:22-25, 28-33; 6:1-4) But, lukim hao hedship hem lead go long hapi only sapos they followim diswan long stretfela way. Olketa hasband wea love-im God they savvy hedship hem no meanim way for decide-im evri samting. Olketa followim Jesus, wea hem Hed bilong olketa. Nomata Jesus hem “hed ovarem evri samting,” hem “kam, no for olketa work for hem, but for hem nao work.” (Ephesians 1:22; Matthew 20:28) Long sem way tu, Kristian man hem showim aot hedship, no for kasem gud samting for hemseleva, but for luk aftarem waef and olketa pikinini bilong hem.—1 Corinthians 13:4, 5.
7. Wanem nao olketa Bible principle wea bae helpem waef for fulfillim work wea God markem for hem insaed long famili?
7 Waef wea love-im God hem no trae for winim or trae for bossim hasband bilong hem. Hem hapi for supportim and work tugeta withim hasband bilong hem. Samfela taem Bible story abaotem waef olsem wanfela wea hasband “ownim,” wea barava show aot klia hao hem hed bilong waef. (Genesis 20:3) Thru long marit, hem kam under long “law bilong hasband bilong hem.” (Romans 7:2) Long semtaem, Bible kolem hem wanfela for “helpem” and “balance-im” man. (Genesis 2:20) Hem garem olketa fasin and savvy wea hasband short long hem, and givim support wea hem needim. (Proverbs 31:10-31) Bible say tu hao waef hem wanfela “partner,” wanfela wea work tugeta withim partner bilong hem. (Malachi 2:14) Olketa Bible principle hia helpem hasband and waef for meanim position bilong each other and for showim aot proper respect and honor long each other.
“KWIKTAEM FOR LISTEN”
8, 9. Meanim samfela principle wea bae helpem evriwan insaed long famili for kamap moabeta long way for story tugeta.
8 Disfela buk hem mek hae planti taem long need for story tugeta. Why nao olsem? Bikos hem moa easy for stretem olketa problem taem pipol story withim and really listen long each other. Planti taem disfela buk strongim hao way for story tugeta hem meanim tufela evriwan nao mas toktok tugeta. Disaepol James say olsem abaotem diswan: “Evri man mas kwiktaem for listen, slow for toktok.”—James 1:19.
9 Hem important tu for careful long hao iumi toktok. Way for talem toktok and no ting firstaem, raf, laek for raoa, or tok daonem narawan hem no mekem gudfela way for story kamap. (Proverbs 15:1; 21:9; 29:11, 20) Nomata samting wea iumi talem hem stret, sapos iumi talem long way wea raf, praod, and no tingim feeling bilong narawan, bae diswan spoelem hem and no helpem hem. Toktok bilong iumi mas gud, “olsem withim salt.” (Colossians 4:6) Olketa toktok bilong iumi mas olsem “olketa gold apple wea stap long wanfela silver carving.” (Proverbs 25:11) Olketa famili wea learn for story gud tugeta they duim important samting for kasem hapi.
IMPORTANT WORK BILONG LOVE
10. Wanem kaen love nao hem important insaed long marit?
10 Datfela word “love” kamap planti taem insaed disfela buk. Waswe, iu rememberim wanem kaen love nao datwan? Hem tru, love midlwan long man and woman (Greek, eʹros) hem important part insaed long marit, and long olketa marit wea stap gud, deep feeling and way for fren (Greek, phi·liʹa) savvy grow midlwan long hasband and waef. But datwan wea moa important hem love wea Greek word a·gaʹpe hem meanim. Iumi mekem grow diskaen love for Jehovah, for Jesus, and for neibor bilong iumi. (Matthew 22:37-39) Hem nao love wea Jehovah showim aot for olketa man. (John 3:16) Hem gud tumas for showim aot semkaen love long marit partner and olketa pikinini!—1 John 4:19.
11. Hao nao love hem mekem marit go ahed gud?
11 Insaed long marit, disfela nambawan love hem barava “perfect way for garem wan mind.” (Colossians 3:14) Hem joinim hasband and waef and mekem tufela want for duim samting wea hem best for each other and for olketa pikinini bilong them. Taem olketa famili face-im hardfela samting, love bae helpem them for deal withim olketa samting long wan mind. Taem hasband and waef start for kamap olo, love helpem them for supportim and go ahed for ting hae long each other. “Love . . . no lukaotem samting bilong hemseleva nomoa. . . . Hem kavarem evri samting, believim evri samting, hope long evri samting, hem stand strong long evri samting. Love hem nating savvy fail.”—1 Corinthians 13:4-8.
12. Why nao love for God wea hasband and waef garem hem strongim marit bilong tufela?
12 Marit hem kamap barava strong taem hasband and waef no just garem love midlwan long tufela, but taem they garem love for Jehovah. (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12) Why nao olsem? Aposol John hem raet olsem: “Diswan nao meaning bilong love bilong God, for iumi obeyim evri komandment bilong hem.” (1 John 5:3) So, hasband and waef mas trainim olketa pikinini bilong them for love-im God no from they barava love-im olketa pikinini nomoa but bikos hem komand bilong Jehovah. (Deuteronomy 6:6, 7) They mas stap klia long dirty fasin no from they love-im each other nomoa but main samting hem from they love-im Jehovah, wea “bae judge-im olketa wea duim fornication and adultery.” (Hebrews 13:4) Nomata sapos wanfela partner mekem bigfela problem kamap insaed long marit, love for Jehovah bae muvim narawan for go ahed for followim olketa Bible principle. Yes, hapi nao olketa famili wea love for each other hem kamap barava strong from they garem love for Jehovah!
FAMILI WEA DUIM WILL BILONG GOD
13. Hao nao way wea man decide strong for duim will bilong God helpem hem for tingting olawe long olketa samting wea really important?
13 Main samting long living bilong wanfela Kristian hem for duim will bilong God. (Psalm 143:10) Diswan nao really meaning bilong way for love-im God. Way for duim will bilong God bae helpem olketa famili for ting long olketa samting wea really important. (Philippians 1:9, 10) For example, Jesus givim disfela warning: “Mi kam for divaedem pipol, for mekem man againstim dadi bilong hem, and girl againstim mami bilong hem, and youngfela waef againstim mami-in-law bilong hem. Tru nao, enemy bilong man bae kamaot from famili bilong hem.” (Matthew 10:35, 36) For fitim warning bilong Jesus, planti follower bilong hem they kasem persecution from olketa famili member bilong them. Diswan hem mekem man feel sorry tumas! Nomata olsem, iumi mas no letem love bilong iumi for famili winim way wea iumi love-im Jehovah and Jesus Kraest. (Matthew 10:37-39) Sapos wanfela hem stand strong nomata famili againstim hem, olketa wea againstim hem maet change taem they lukim olketa gudfela samting wea kamaot from way wea hem love-im God. (1 Corinthians 7:12-16; 1 Peter 3:1, 2) Nomata sapos datwan hem no happen, man bae no kasem eni gud samting sapos hem stop for servim God bikos pipol againstim hem.
14. Hao nao way for want for duim will bilong God helpem dadi and mami for duim best samting for olketa pikinini bilong them?
14 For duim will bilong God hem helpem dadi and mami for decide-im samting long stretfela way. For example, long samfela ples, dadi and mami ting long olketa pikinini olsem samting for kasem shilling, and they depend long olketa pikinini for luk aftarem them taem they olo. Nomata hem stret for olketa full-grown pikinini for luk aftarem dadi and mami wea olo, tingting olsem mas no mekem dadi and mami leadim olketa pikinini for garem laef wea lukaotem material samting. Dadi and mami no helpem pikinini sapos they teachim them for ting hae long olketa material samting winim olketa spiritual samting.—1 Timothy 6:9.
15. Hao nao Eunice, mami bilong Timothy, hem showim aot nambawan example bilong mami wea duim will bilong God?
15 Nambawan example long diswan hem Eunice, mami bilong Timothy, youngfela fren bilong Paul. (2 Timothy 1:5) Nomata hem maritim man wea no believe, Eunice and Lois, granmami bilong Timothy, tufela teachim Timothy for love-im God. (2 Timothy 3:14, 15) Taem Timothy kamap big, Eunice letem hem for lusim hom and duim Kingdom-preaching work olsem wanfela missionary withim Paul. (Acts 16:1-5) Hem mas hapi tumas taem son bilong hem kamap wanfela nambawan missionary! Way wea hem love-im God taem hem full-grown man showim aot gudfela training wea hem kasem taem hem small. Tru nao, Eunice hem satisfy and hapi for herem olketa report abaotem faithful ministry bilong Timothy, nomata hem maet misstim hem long hom.—Philippians 2:19, 20.
FAMILI AND FUTURE BILONG IU
16. Olsem wanfela son, wanem stretfela way for tingim mami nao Jesus showim aot, but wanem nao main goal bilong hem?
16 Jesus hem big kam insaed wanfela famili wea love-im God and, taem hem full-grown man, hem showim aot stretfela way for wanfela son for tingim mami bilong hem. (Luke 2:51, 52; John 19:26) But, main goal bilong Jesus hem for fulfillim will bilong God, and for hem, diswan meanim tu for openem way for olketa man for enjoyim laef olawe. Hem duim diswan taem hem offerim perfect laef bilong hem olsem man for wanfela ransom for olketa man wea sin.—Mark 10:45; John 5:28, 29.
17. Wanem nao olketa nambawan hope wea faithful fasin bilong Jesus hem openem for olketa wea duim will bilong God?
17 Bihaen long dae bilong Jesus, Jehovah raisim hem for laef long heven and hem givim hem bigfela paoa, and go-go hem kamap King long Kingdom long heven. (Matthew 28:18; Romans 14:9; Revelation 11:15) Sakrifaes bilong Jesus mekem way for samfela kamap fit for rul withim hem insaed long datfela Kingdom. Hem openem tu way for otherfela man wea garem gudfela heart for enjoyim perfect laef long wanfela earth wea bae kamap paradaes moa. (Revelation 5:9, 10; 14:1, 4; 21:3-5; 22:1-4) Wanfela nambawan privilege wea iumi garem distaem hem for talemaot gud nius long olketa neibor bilong iumi.—Matthew 24:14.
18. Wanem samting nao olketa famili and man wanwan they kasem encouragement for duim?
18 Olsem aposol Paul showim aot, way for garem living wea showim aot love for God hem mekem pipol garem hope for kasem olketa blessing long laef “wea bae kamap bihaen.” Yes, diswan nao barava best way for kasem hapi! Remember, “world hem ready for finis and evri samting wea hem wantim tu, but man wea duim will bilong God bae stap olawe.” (1 John 2:17) So, nomata iu wanfela pikinini or dadi or mami, wanfela hasband or waef, or wanfela single person wea garem or wea no garem pikinini, trae hard for duim will bilong God. Nomata taem iu kasem hevi or face-im barava hardfela samting, no forget hao iu wanfela servant bilong living God. So, letem olketa samting wea iu duim givim hapi long Jehovah. (Proverbs 27:11) And letem fasin bilong iu givim iu hapi distaem and givim iu laef olawe insaed niu world wea bae kam!