Kugcizelela Umcondvo Ngendlela Lefanele

NAWUKHULUMA nome ufundza ngelivi lelivakalako, kubalulekile kutsi ungagcini ngekuwabita kahle emagama kodvwa kufanele ugcizelele emagama layinhloko nemicondvo lengumgogodla wendzaba ngendlela letawenta kutsi emaphuzu acace.

Kugcizelela umcondvo ngendlela lefanele kusho lokungetulu kwekugcizelela emagama lambalwa nome lamanyenti. Kufanele ugcizelele emagama lafanele. Nangabe ugcizelela emagama langakafaneli, lokushoko kungase kungacaci kulabakulalele, futsi kwente tingcondvo tabo ticabange letinye tintfo. Ngisho nome inkhulumo yakho inemaphuzu lafundzisako, kodvwa nangabe ungayigcizeleli kahle imicondvo, ngeke ibakhutsate labo labakulalele.

Kugcizelela kungentiwa nganati tindlela letehlukehlukene letivame kusetjentiswa kanye kanye: Kuphakamisa livi, kuveta imiva lejulile, kunensa, kuhlaba likhefu ngaphambi nangemuva kwekusho lokutsite (nome kokubili), kunyakatisa umtimba kanye nesimo sebuso. Kuletinye tilwimi, kungagcizelelwa nangekutsi kwehliswe livi nome liphakanyiswe. Cabanga ngemaphuzu enkhulumo kanye nangetimo kuze uncume kutsi nguyiphi indlela lefanele.

Nawuncuma kutsi ngukuphi lotakugcizelela, cabanga nganaku lokulandzelako. (1) Kunobe ngumuphi umusho, emagama lokufanele agcizelelwe akancunywa ngumusho kuphela, kodvwa ancunywa nayingcikitsi yendzaba. (2) Kugcizelela imicondvo kungentiwa nangabe ungena ephuzwini lelisha, kungaba nguleliyinhloko nome nasewuchaza liphuzu ngalenye indlela. Loko kungaphindze kusivete kahle siphetfo lokufinyelelwa kuso. (3) Sikhulumi singase sigcizelele kuze sikhombise indlela lesitiva ngayo ngendzaba. (4) Kugcizelela imicondvo ngendlela lefanele kungagcamisa emaphuzu layinhloko enkhulumo.

Kuze sigcizelele ngaletindlela lesikhulume ngato, sikhulumi nobe loyo lofundzela linyenti kufanele ayati kahle inkhulumo yakhe futsi ente imetamo yekutsi labalalele bayive kahle. Mayelana nesicondziso lesaniketwa ngesikhatsi sa-Ezra, Nehemiya 8:8, utsi: “Bafundza incwadzi yemtsetfo waNkulunkulu, bawucacisa kahle. Babechazela sive inshokutsini yawo, kuze kutsi sonkhe sive sicondzisise kahle kutsi kukhulunywa ngani.” Kuyacaca kutsi labo lebebafundza futsi bachaza uMtsetfo waNkulunkulu ngaleso sikhatsi bakubona kubaluleka kwekusita labalalele kutsi bacondze inchazelo yaloko lebekufundvwa, bakukhumbule futsi bakusebentise.

Lokungase Kubange Inkinga. Bantfu labanyenti bayakwati kukucacisa labakushoko nabaticocela malanga onkhe. Nome kunjalo, nabafundza intfo lebhalwe ngulomunye umuntfu kungase kube matima kuncuma kutsi ngumaphi emagama nome imisho labatayigcizelela. Lokungasita kutsi uyicondze kahle indzaba. Loku kudzinga kutsi ukutadishe ngekucophelela loko lokubhaliwe. Ngako-ke, nangabe ucelwe kutsi ufundze emhlanganweni welibandla, kufanele ulungiselele kahle.

Labanye balibala kugcizelela kunekutsi bagcizelele imicondvo kuphela. Bagcizelela ligama neligama ngisho nome singekho sidzingo. Labanye bagcizelela emagama latsite, mhlawumbe bagcizelele kakhulu emagama lachaza simo, indzawo kanye nesikhatsi lokwenteke ngaso intfo letsite kanye netihlanganiso. Nangabe kugcizelela kwakho kungasiti ekukhanyiseni umcondvo, kutawubaphazamisa labo labalalele.

Nangabe tetama kugcizelela emagama nemisho leyinhloko, letinye tikhulumi tiphakamisa livi ngendlela leyenta labalalele bacabange kutsi bayatsetsiswa. Kwenta njalo akukavami kuba nemiphumela lemihle. Nangabe sikhulumi sigcizelela ngendlela lengakavami, labalalele bangacabanga kutsi sibabukela phansi. Kuncono kakhulu kutsi ubakhutsate ngelutsandvo uphindze ubasite bacondze kutsi loko lokushoko kusekelwe emiBhalweni futsi kunekucabangela.

Longakwenta Kuze Utfutfuke. Esikhatsini lesinyenti, umuntfu lonenkinga yekugcizelela usuke angati kutsi unalenkinga. Kungase kudzingeke kutsi lotsite amtjele. Nangabe kudzingeka kutsi utfutfukise kulendzaba, umbonisi wesikolwa utakusita. Tive ukhululekile kutsi ucele lusito kunobe ngabe ngubani losikhulumi lesiphumelelako. Mcele kutsi akulalelisise nawufundza nobe nawukhuluma, bese uyakutjela lapho kufanele utfutfukise khona.

Angacala ngekutsi akucele usebentise sihloko lesitsite ku-Sicongosekulindza, kuze uphrakthize. Utakutjela kutsi uhlatiye umusho ngamunye kuze ubone kutsi ngumaphi emagama nobe imishwana lokudzingeka kutsi uyigcizelele kuze lokushoko kube melula kukucondza. Angase akukhumbute kutsi uwanakisise emagama latsite labhalwe atjekiswa. Khumbula kutsi emagama lasemshweni ayavumelana. Etikhatsini letinyenti, kufanele ugcizelele emagama lahlanganisiwe, hhayi ligama ngalinye. Kuletinye tilwimi, bafundzi bangase bakhutsatwe kutsi banake kakhulu timphawu letingetulu nobe ngephansi kwemagama kuze bagcizelele ngendlela lefanele.

Sinyatselo lesilandzelako kungaba kutsi loyo lokusitako akucele kutsi unake ingcikitsi yendzaba ngobe yona inemcondvo lobanti kunemusho. Nguliphi liphuzu lelingumgogodla lokukhulunywa ngalo kuleso sigaba? Loko kungakusita njani kuloko lokufanele ukugcizelele emshweni ngamunye? Endzabeni loyifundzako, buka sihloko kanye nesihlokwana lesibhalwe ngemagama lagcamile. Loko kungakusita njani ekukhetseni kutsi ngukuphi lokufanele ukugcizelele? Kufanele uwacabangele onkhe lamaphuzu. Caphela kutsi ungagcizeleli kakhulu emagama lamanyenti.

Ngisho nobe utawube ukhuluma ngemavi akho nome ufundza, loyo lokusitako angase akukhutsate kutsi indlela loveta ngayo emaphuzu ilawule indlela logcizelela ngayo imicondvo. Kufanele wati lapho kushintja khona indlela yekuchaza liphuzu nobe lapho kucala khona lelinye liphuzu lelibalulekile. Labo labakulalele batawusitakala nangabe indlela lokhuluma ngayo ibenta babone kutsi sewuyasuka ephuzwini lelitsite uya kulelinye. Loko kungentiwa ngekusebentisa emagama lanjengalawa: Kwekucala, lokulandzelako, kwekugcina, ngako-ke kanye nalatsi lokufanele sikunake.

Loyo lokusitako utakukhombisa imicondvo lokufanele uvete kuyo imiva. Kuze wente loko, ungase ugcizelele emagama lanjengalawa: Asingabati, ikakhulukati, nome kanjani, kubalulekile kanye nalatsi ngaso sonkhe sikhatsi. Kwenta njalo kutawutsintsa indlela labo labakulalele labativa ngayo ngaloko lokushoko. Kutawukhulunywa kabanti ngalendzaba eSifundvweni 11, lesitsi “Bungani Kanye Nemiva.”

Kuze utfutfukise indlela logcizelela ngayo, utawukhutsatwa nekutsi uwati kahle emaphuzu layinhloko lofuna kutsi labo labakulalele bangawakhohlwa. Loku kutawukhulunywa kabanti ngako mayelana nekufundzela linyenti kuSifundvo 7, lesitsi “Imicondvo Leyinhloko Igcizelelwe” kanye nakuSifundvo 37, lesitsi “Emaphuzu Layinhloko Agcanyisiwe.”

Nawufuna kutfutfuka emsebentini wekushumayela, yinakisise indlela lofundza ngayo imibhalo. Tibute nangu umbuto: ‘Kungani ngifundza lombhalo?’ Kumuntfu lofundzisako, akukeneli kumane awabite kahle emagama nobe afundze ngendlela leveta imiva. Nawuphendvula umbuto walotsite nobe umfundzisa emaciniso lasisekelo, kuhle kutsi kulowo mbhalo ugcizelele emagama nome imisho lesekela loko lenicoca ngako. Nawungenti njalo, loyo muntfu angase angalitfoli liphuzu.

Njengobe kugcizelela imicondvo kufaka ekhatsi kugcizelela emagama kanye nemishwana letsite, sikhulumi lesite lokuhlangenwe nako singase siwagcizelele ngendlela leyecile lawo magama kanye nemishwana. Nasenta njalo, singafana nemuntfu losacala kufundza kusebentisa insimbi yemculo. Nakachubeka aphrakthiza kudlala “linothi” ngalinye, utawugcine asadlala “umculo” lomnandzi.

Nasewutati letinye tindlela letisisekelo tekugcizelela, kutakuzuzisa kunaka tikhulumi letinalokuhlangenwe nako. Ngekushesha utawubona umphumela wekugcizelela ngemazinga lehlukehlukene. Utakubona kubaluleka kwekugcizelela ngetindlela letehlukehlukene kuze ucacise loko lokushoko. Kuba nelikhono lekugcizelela imicondvo kutakusita kakhulu kutsi uphumelele nawutifundzela wena nome nawukhuluma.

Ungamane nje ugcizelele ngobe ufuna kutikhipha ecaleni. Kuze ube sikhulumi lesiphumelelako, chubeka ulwela kutfutfuka uze ukhone kugcizelela ngendlela lefanele futsi labakulalele beve kutsi ukhuluma ngendlela leyetayelekile.