Make Wuna Love Continue to Burn Like Fire

1. How Bible describe true love?

TRUE love “be like fire wey de burn well-well, wey be fire of Jah. Plenty water no go fit quench love and river no go fit wash-am comot.”b (Song of Sol. 8:6, 7) Na really better way Bible take describe true love! Wetin this one mean for people wey don marry? E mean say them go fit continue to get strong love for each other.

2. Wetin husband and wife go do so that their love for each other no go start to go down?

² Husband and wife wey want make their love continue to dey strong, need to work hard to make-am happen. For example, if you use firewood make fire, you go need to continue to add wood for the fire, so that e go continue to de burn. But if you stop to put wood for the fire, small-small e go stop to de burn. Na so e still be for the love wey husband and wife get for each other. E go continue to de strong only if them continue to do wetin go make-am strong. But sometimes, husband and wife fit de feel say their love don de go down. This one fit happen especially when them de face money problem, sickness, or other family problem wey fit come as them de train children. So if you don marry, wetin you go do so that your love for each other go continue to de strong? For this article, we go talk about three things wey wuna fit do to make wuna love for each other continue to de strong and enjoy wuna marriage.c

CONTINUE TO MAKE YOUR FRIENDSHIP WITH JEHOVAH STRONG

3. How strong love for Jehovah de help husband and wife make their love for each other strong? (Ecclesiastes 4:12) (Still check the picture.)

³ If husband and wife want make their love for each other continue to de strong, them need to make their friendship with Jehovah strong. How this one fit help them? When husband and wife love Jehovah, that one go make them quick follow e advice. This one go help them no enter trouble and still help them fit handle any problem wey fit spoil their love for each other. (Read Ecclesiastes 4:12.) People wey love Jehovah de do their best to copy Jehovah example. This one de help them fit treat people with good mind, dey patient, and de forgive. (Eph. 4:32–5:1) When husband and wife de treat each other like this, e go easy for their love to de grow. Sister Lena wey e don pass 25 years since e marry talk say, “E dey easy to love and respect person wey really love Jehovah.”

4. Why Jehovah choose Joseph and Mary to care for the Messiah?

⁴ Make we talk about one example from Bible. When Jehovah want choose the husband and wife wey go care for the Messiah, e choose Joseph and Mary from the plenty family wey come from the family of David. Why? Na because each of them get their own friendship with Jehovah and Jehovah know say them go put e worship as the number one thing for their marriage. Husband, wetin you fit learn from the example of Joseph? And wife, wetin you fit learn from the example of Mary?

5. Wetin husband fit learn from Joseph?

⁵ Joseph no de waste time to do wetin Jehovah talk, and this one make-am better husband. At least three times for Bible, Jehovah tell-am something wey e go do for e family. And anytime wey Jehovah tell-am say make e do something, e de do-am quick-quick even though say the thing fit hard for-am to do. (Matt. 1:20, 24; 2:13-15, 19-21) As Joseph do wetin Jehovah tell-am, e protect, support, and care for Mary. Wetin Joseph do go don make Mary respect-am and love-am more-more! Husband, you go fit copy Joseph example when you de follow advice from Bible as you de care for your family.d When you follow this advice even if e go make you change some things for your life, e go show say you love your wife, and e go make wuna love continue to grow. One sister for Vanuatu, wey e don pass 20 years wey e marry talk say: “I de respect my husband more when e follow Jehovah advice. E de make my mind come down and de help me fit trust e decision.”

6. Wetin sisters wey don marry fit learn from Mary?

⁶ Mary get e own friendship with Jehovah. E no put everything about e faith for Joseph hand. E sabi God Word well-well. (Check study note for Luke 1:46 for English) And e make sure say e get time to de think about the things wey e learn. (Luke 2:19, 51) True-true, Mary friendship with Jehovah make-am better wife. Today, plenty sisters de do their best to copy Mary example. For example, one sister wey e name na Emiko talk say: “When I never marry, I de do things by myself wey go make me near Jehovah more-more. After I marry, since na my husband de pray and handle family worship, I see say I don leave everything about my faith for e hand. Na that time I see say I need to do my own part to make my friendship with Jehovah strong. Now I get my own time wey I take de pray, read Bible and think deep about wetin I de read.” (Gal. 6:5) Sisters wey don marry, as wuna continue to make wuna friendship with Jehovah strong, wuna husband go get more reason to de praise and love wuna.—Prov. 31:30.

7. Wetin husband and wife fit learn from Joseph and Mary about to de worship Jehovah together?

⁷ Joseph and Mary still work together to make their friendship with Jehovah strong. Them know say e dey important well-well to worship Jehovah together as family. (Luke 2:22-24, 41; 4:16) This one fit no easy for them especially when them start to born children, but them do their best to fit worship Jehovah together. This one na better example for husband and wife today! If you get children just like Joseph and Mary, e fit no easy for you to go meeting and arrange family worship. The one wey fit hard pass na to arrange time to study or pray as husband and wife. But remember say when wuna worship Jehovah together as husband and wife, e go help wuna near Jehovah and each other more-more. So make wuna no let anything stop wuna to worship Jehovah together as husband and wife.

8. Wetin husband and wife wey get problem for their marriage fit do to fit enjoy family worship again?

⁸ Wetin you go do if wuna de get problem for wuna marriage? To do family worship fit hard wuna. If na like that e be, wuna fit start with topic wey no long, wey two of wuna agree to talk about, and wey wuna go enjoy. This one fit make wuna love for each other start to de grow, and make wuna want worship Jehovah together as husband and wife again.

MAKE WUNA DE SPEND TIME TOGETHER

9. Why husband and wife need to spend time together?

⁹ Husband and wife, another way wuna fit make wuna love continue to dey strong na when wuna de spend time together. This one go help you fit put mind for how your husband or wife de feel and think. (Gen. 2:24) E don pass 15 years wey Sister Lilia and Brother Ruslan marry, but see wetin them notice small time after them marry. Sister Lilia talk say: “We see say we no de get plenty time to spend together as we be de think before we marry. We no de get plenty time for each other because of our work, things to do for house, and later because of our children. We see say if we no arrange time wey we go spend together, we no go dey close again like before.”

10. How husband and wife fit follow the advice wey dey Ephesians 5:15, 16?

¹⁰ Wetin husband and wife fit do to get time wey them go spend together? Wuna fit arrange time wey wuna go spend together. (Read Ephesians 5:15, 16.) One brother for Nigeria wey e name na Uzondu talk say: “When I de arrange time for the things wey I want do, I de make sure say I de arrange the time wey I go spend with my wife, and I no de play with that time.” (Phil. 1:10) One circuit overseer wife for Moldova wey e name na Anastasia talk how e de use e time. E talk say: “I de do the things wey I need to do when my husband de prepare for e assignment or de do other things. This one de help us fit spend time together after we don finish wetin we de do.” But what if wuna get plenty things to do wey de make-am hard to get time to spend together?

11. Which things Aquila and Priscilla de do together?

¹¹ Husband and wife go fit learn from Aquila and Priscilla. Christians for apostles time really love and respect them. (Rom. 16:3, 4) Na true say Bible no talk plenty things about their marriage, but e show say them work, preach and help people together. (Acts 18:2, 3, 24-26) In fact, anytime wey Bible talk about Aquila and Priscilla, e de always talk about them together.

12. Wetin husband and wife fit do to fit spend more time together? (Still check the picture.)

¹² How husband and wife fit copy the example of Aquila and Priscilla? Think about the things wey you and your husband or wife need to do. Wuna go fit do-am together instead to do-am different-different? For example, Aquila and Priscilla preach together. Wuna get plan to de preach together? Another thing be say Aquila and Priscilla work together. Two of wuna fit no de do the same work, but wuna fit de do wuna house work together? (Eccl. 4:9) When wuna de do things together, wuna friendship go tight and wuna go get chance to talk to each other more. See the example of Brother Robert and Sister Linda wey don marry for more than 50 years. Brother Robert talk say: “Na true say we no get plenty time for sport and other things wey we fit use relax. But when I de wash plate and my wife de rinse or wipe them, or when e join me as I de work for inside our garden, e de really make me happy. This one don make our friendship tight more and our love don continue to grow.”

13. Wetin husband and wife need to do to fit really enjoy their time together?

¹³ Just because wuna de stay together no mean say wuna de spend time together. One sister for Brazil talk say: “Today, because we get plenty things to do, if we no dey careful, we fit start to think say we de spend time with our husband or wife just because say we de stay for the same house. I don learn say I no only need to dey together with my husband, but I still need to listen to-am and talk with-am when we de spend time together. See wetin Brother Bruno and e wife wey e name na Tays do to make sure say them enjoy the time wey them de spend with each other. Brother Bruno talk say: “When we dey together, we de make sure say our phone no dey with us so that we go fit enjoy our time well together.”

14. Wetin husband and wife fit do if them no de enjoy to spend time together?

¹⁴ But wetin you go do if you and your husband or wife no de enjoy to spend time together? Maybe wetin you like different from wetin e like, or something about-am de make you vex. Wetin fit help you? Remember the fire wey we don first talk about for this article. The fire no go start to catch well-well when you just light-am. You go need to de add firewood small-small to the fire to make-am catch more. As time de go, you go de put big-big firewood for the fire. Na the same thing wuna fit do, wuna fit start to spend small time together every day. And when wuna want spend time together, make wuna do wetin two of wuna go enjoy, no be wetin fit make one of wuna vex. (Jas. 3:18) When wuna start small-small, wuna go see say wuna love fit start to grow again.

MAKE WUNA DE RESPECT EACH OTHER

15. Why e dey important make husband and wife de respect each other?

¹⁵ Respect really dey important for marriage. E just be like the air wey de make fire burn well-well. If air no dey, the fire go quick quench. Na so e still be, if husband and wife no de respect each other, their love go quick die. But if husband and wife de respect each other, their love go continue to grow. Make you put-am for mind say this one no be whether you think say you de respect your husband or wife, but na if your husband or wife feel say you de respect-am. Brother Aret and Sister Penny don marry for more than 25 years. Sister Penny talk say: “Because we de respect each other, we de really enjoy love for our family. We de fit tell each other wetin dey our mind because we know say we de respect how each other de feel.” So wetin you fit do to make your husband or wife feel say you really de respect-am? Make we see wetin we fit learn from the example of Abraham and Sarah.

16. Wetin husband fit learn from Abraham example? (1 Peter 3:7) (Still check the picture.)

¹⁶ Abraham respect Sarah well-well. Abraham listen to Sarah when Sarah de talk wetin dey e mind, and Abraham show say e care about how Sarah de feel. One time wey Sarah de vex, e tell Abraham e mind and even blame-am for the problem wey make-am vex. Abraham vex for-am and tell-am wetin go pain-am? No! Abraham remember say Sarah de always respect and support-am. So e listen to Sarah and try to solve the problem. (Gen. 16:5, 6) Wetin we fit learn from this one? Husband, na your work to make decision for your family. (1 Cor. 11:3) But to show say you love your wife, e dey important to ask-am wetin e think about the matter before you make decision, especially if e go affect-am. (1 Cor. 13:4, 5) Sometimes, your wife fit de vex and e want talk how e de feel. You go sofri listen to-am to show say you care about how e de feel? (Read 1 Peter 3:7.) E don de near 30 years wey Sister Angela and Brother Dmitry marry. Sister Angela talk how e husband de respect-am. E talk say: “My husband de always listen to me when I de vex or when I just want talk. E de listen to me even when I no de talk my mind sofri-sofri.”

17. If you be wife, how you fit copy Sarah example? (1 Peter 3:5, 6)

¹⁷ Sarah show say e respect Abraham as e support the decisions wey Abraham make. (Gen. 12:5) One time, Abraham decide to welcome some visitors wey e no expect and give them food. So e tell Sarah say make e stop everything wey e de do so that e go fit cook plenty food for them. (Gen. 18:6) Sarah no waste time to do wetin Abraham say make e do, to support e decision. If you be wife, you go fit copy Sarah example when you de support your husband decision. This one go make wuna love continue to de grow. (Read 1 Peter 3:5, 6.) Brother Dmitry wey we don talk about before, talk wetin e wife de do wey make-am feel say e wife de respect-am. E talk say: “E de sweet me when my wife support my decision even when e no agree with the decision. Even if things no go well, e no go talk bad about the decision.” E really dey easy to love person wey respect you!

18. Wetin husband and wife go gain when them do their best to make their love dey strong?

¹⁸ Today, Satan want quench the love wey servants of Jehovah de enjoy for their marriage. Because e know say if husband and wife stop to love each other, them go start to leave Jehovah small-small. But nothing fit ever quench true love! Na our prayer say make wuna love for each other be like the one wey Bible talk about for Song of Solomon. Make wuna do wuna best to put Jehovah as number one for wuna marriage, de spend time with each other, de respect each other and care for how each other de feel. This one go make wuna marriage honor Jehovah, the God wey true love come from. And wuna love go be like fire wey de burn forever.