Isahluko 16
Lungiselela Intsapho Yakho Ikamva Elingunaphakade
1. Yiyiphi injongo kaYehova ngelungiselelo lentsapho?
XA UYEHOVA wamanyanisa uAdam noEva ngomtshato, uAdam wavakalisa uvuyo lwakhe ngokusebenzisa amazwi awaba ngumbongo wokuqala obhaliweyo wesiHebhere. (Genesis 2:22, 23) Noko ke, injongo yoMdali yayingaphelelanga ekonwabiseni abantwana bakhe abangabantu kuphela. Wayefuna izibini ezitshatileyo neentsapho zenze ukuthanda kwakhe. Waxelela isibini sokuqala oku: “Qhamani, nande, niwuzalise umhlaba niweyise; nibe nobukhosi ezintlanzini zolwandle, nasezintakeni zezulu, nasezintweni zonke eziphilileyo ezinambuzelayo emhlabeni.” (Genesis 1:28) Esinjani sona ukuzuka nokuba nomvuzo isabelo! Hayi indlela engebabonwabe ngayo bona nabantwana ababeza kuba nabo ukuba uAdam noEva babenze ukuthanda kukaYehova ngokumthobela ngokupheleleyo!
2, 3. Iintsapho zingalufumana njani ulonwabo olukhulu namhlanje?
2 Nanamhlanje, iintsapho zonwaba gqitha xa zisebenzisana ekwenzeni ukuthanda kukaThixo. Umpostile uPawulos wabhala wathi: “Uzinikelo lobuthixo luyingenelo kuzo zonke izinto, njengoko lunesithembiso sobomi ngoku nesobo buza kuza.” (1 Timoti 4:8) Intsapho ephila ngozinikelo lobuthixo nelandela ukhokelo lukaYehova oluseBhayibhileni iya kufumana ulonwabo ‘kubomi bangoku.’ (INdumiso 1:1-3; 119:105; 2 Timoti 3:16) Kwanaxa lilinye ilungu lentsapho elisebenzisa imigaqo yeBhayibhile, kubakho umahluko kunaxa kungekho nelinye.
3 Le ncwadi ixubushe imigaqo emininzi yeBhayibhile efak’ isandla kulonwabo lwentsapho. Mhlawumbi uphawule ukuba eminye yayo ivela ngokuphindaphindiweyo kule ncwadi. Ngoba? Kuba imela iinyaniso ezinamandla eziluncedo kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi bentsapho. Intsapho ezabalazela ukusebenzisa le migaqo yeBhayibhile ifumanisa ukuba uzinikelo lobuthixo ngokwenene ‘lunesithembiso sobomi ngoku.’ Makhe siphinde siqwalasele zibe ne kwezo ngongoma zibalulekileyo.
UKUBALULEKA KOKUZEYISA
4. Kutheni ukuzeyisa kubalulekile emtshatweni?
4 UKumkani uSolomon wathi: “Ngumzi otyhoboziweyo, ongenaludonga, indoda engenakuzibamba umoya wayo.” (IMizekeliso 25:28; 29:11) ‘Ukubamba umoya,’ ukuzeyisa, kubalulekile kwabo bafuna ukuba nemitshato eyonwabisayo. Ukunikezela kwiimvakalelo ezitshabalalisayo, njengomsindo okanye iminqweno yokuziphatha okubi, kuya kwenza umonakalo ekuya kuthabatha iminyaka emininzi ukuwulungisa—ukuba unokulungiswa kwaukulungiswa.
5. Umntu ongafezekanga unokukuhlakulela njani ukuzeyisa, yaye angangenelwa njani?
5 Kakade ke, ayikho inzala ka-Adam enokuyilawula ngokupheleleyo inyama yayo engafezekanga. (Roma 7:21, 22) Sekunjalo, ukuzeyisa kusisiqhamo somoya. (Galati 5:22, 23) Ngenxa yoko, umoya kaThixo uya kusenza sikwazi ukuzeyisa ukuba siyaluthandazela olu phawu, ukuba sisebenzisa isiluleko esifanelekileyo esifumaneka eZibhalweni, yaye ukuba sinxulumana nabanye abalubonisayo size sibaphephe abo bangalubonisiyo. (INdumiso 119:100, 101, 130; IMizekeliso 13:20; 1 Petros 4:7) Elo khondo liya kusinceda ‘sisabe kulo uhenyuzo,’ kwanaxa silingwa. (1 Korinte 6:18) Siya kuluchasa ugonyamelo size siphephe okanye soyise ukukhotyokiswa butywala. Yaye siya kuzola xa sicatshukiswa naxa sisebunzimeni. Ngamana sonke—kuquka nabantwana—singafunda ukuhlakulela esi siqhamo somoya sibalulekileyo.—INdumiso 119:1, 2.
IMBONO EFANELEKILEYO NGOBUNTLOKO
6. (a) UThixo umisele luphi uludwe ngokuphathelele ubuntloko? (b) Yintoni emele iyikhumbule indoda ukuze ubuntloko bayo buzise ulonwabo kwintsapho yayo?
6 Umgaqo wesibini obalulekileyo kukuhlonela ubuntloko. UPawulos wazidwelisa ngokufanelekileyo izinto xa wathi: “Kodwa ndifuna nazi ukuba intloko yayo yonke indoda nguKristu; ngokulandelayo intloko yomfazi yindoda; ngokulandelayo intloko kaKristu nguThixo.” (1 Korinte 11:3) Oku kuthetha ukuba indoda iyakhokela entsatsheni, umkayo uyixhasa ngokunyaniseka, yaye abantwana bathobela abazali babo. (Efese 5:22-25, 28-33; 6:1-4) Noko ke, phawula ukuba ubuntloko bukhokelela kulonwabo kuphela xa busetyenziswa ngendlela efanelekileyo. Amadoda aphila ngozinikelo lobuthixo ayazi ukuba ubuntloko asikokuba nguzwilakhe. Axelisa uYesu, iNtloko yawo. Nangona uYesu ‘wayeyintloko yezinto zonke,’ “weza, kungekhona ukuba alungiselelwe, kodwa ukuze alungiselele.” (Efese 1:22; Mateyu 20:28) Ngendlela efanayo, indoda engumKristu ubuntloko bayo ayibusebenzisi, ukuze kungenelwe yona, kodwa ukuze inyamekele izilangazelelo zomfazi nabantwana bayo.—1 Korinte 13:4, 5.
7. Yiyiphi imigaqo engokweZibhalo eya kunceda umfazi azalisekise indima yakhe ayinikwe nguThixo kwintsapho?
7 Umfazi ophila ngozinikelo lobuthixo akakhuphisani okanye azame ukuyilawula indoda yakhe. Uyakuvuyela ukuyixhasa aze asebenzisane nayo. Maxa wambi iBhayibhile ithetha ngomfazi ngokuthi ‘ngowendoda’ yakhe, nto leyo ecacisa ukuba iyintloko yakhe. (Genesis 20:3) Ngokutshata uba phantsi ‘komthetho wendoda yakhe.’ (Roma 7:2) Kwangaxeshanye, iBhayibhile imbiza ngokuthi ‘ngumncedi’ nokuthi ‘umphelelisi.’ (Genesis 2:20) Wongezelela iimpawu nobuchule indoda yakhe engenabo, yaye uyinika inkxaso efunekayo. (IMizekeliso 31:10-31) Kwakhona iBhayibhile ithi umfazi “lidlelane,” elisebenzisana ngaxhatha linye nendoda yalo. (Malaki 2:14) Le migaqo yeZibhalo inceda indoda nomfazi baxabise isigxina somnye nomnye baze baphathane ngentlonelo efanelekileyo nangondiliseko.
‘KHAWULEZA UKUVA’
8, 9. Chaza eminye imigaqo eya kunceda bonke kwintsapho baphucule ubuchule babo bokunxibelelana.
8 Kule ncwadi ngokufuthi kubalaseliswe imfuneko yokunxibelelana. Ngoba? Kuba izinto zihamba kakuhle xa abantu bethetha baze baphulaphulane ngokwenene. Kuye kwabethelelwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuba unxibelelwano alukho calanye. Umfundi uYakobi wakuchaza oku ngale ndlela: “Wonke umntu umele akhawuleze ukuva, acothe ukuthetha, acothe ukuqumba.”—Yakobi 1:19.
9 Kwakhona kubalulekile ukuba silumkele indlela esithetha ngayo. Amazwi athethwe ngokungxama, arhabaxa, okanye okunyemba akenzi kubekho unxibelelwano oluphumelelayo. (IMizekeliso 15:1; 21:9; 29:11, 20) Kwanaxa oko sikuthethayo kuchanile, ukuba sikuthethe ngenkohlakalo, ngekratshi, okanye ngokungenaluvelwano, mhlawumbi kunokuchitha kunokuba kwakhe. Ukuthetha kwethu kufanele kube nencasa, ‘kunongwe ngetyuwa.’ (Kolose 4:6) Amazwi ethu afanele afane ‘neelamuni zegolide kwizitya zesilivere.’ (IMizekeliso 25:11) Iintsapho ezifunda ukunxibelelana kakuhle ziye zonwaba ngokuthe chatha.
INDIMA EBALULEKILEYO YOTHANDO
10. Luluphi uhlobo lothando olubalulekileyo emtshatweni?
10 Igama elithi “uthando” livela ngokuphindaphindiweyo kule ncwadi. Ngaba usalukhumbula uhlobo lothando ekubhekiselwe kulo ngokuyintloko? Liyinyaniso elokuba uthando phakathi kwabantu besini esahlukileyo (ngesiGrike, eʹros) lunendima ebalulekileyo emtshatweni, yaye kwimitshato ephumelelayo, umsa onzulu nobuhlobo (ngesiGrike, phi·liʹa) uyakhula phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Kodwa olona lubaluleke kakhulu lolo ngesiGrike kuthiwa ngu-a·gaʹpe. Olu luthando esiluhlakulela ngoYehova, ngoYesu nangommelwane wethu. (Mateyu 22:37-39) Luthando olubonakaliswa nguYehova kuluntu. (Yohane 3:16) Hayi indlela ekunokuba kuhle ngayo ukuba sinokubonisa uthando olunjalo kumaqabane ethu omtshato nakubantwana bethu!—1 Yohane 4:19.
11. Uthando luluncedo njani emtshatweni?
11 Emtshatweni olu thando lubalaseleyo ngokwenene “lungumxokelelwane ogqibeleleyo womanyano.” (Kolose 3:14) Lumanyanisa isibini luze lusenze sifune ukwenzelana izinto ezintle size senzele nabantwana baso. Xa iintsapho zisebunzimeni, uthando luyazinceda zijamelane nabo ngomanyano. Njengokuba isibini sikhula, uthando lusinceda sixhasane size sixabisane. “Uthando . . . alufuni ezalo izilangazelelo. . . . Luthwala izinto zonke, lukholelwa izinto zonke, luthemba izinto zonke, lunyamezela izinto zonke. Uthando aluze lusilele.”—1 Korinte 13:4-8.
12. Kutheni ukuthanda uThixo kwesibini esitshatileyo kuwomeleza umtshato waso?
12 Umanyano lomtshato lomelela ngakumbi xa amaqabane omtshato elutywina ngothando kodwa ngokuyintloko ngokuthanda uYehova. (INtshumayeli 4:9-12) Ngoba? Kaloku umpostile uYohane wabhala wathi: “Oku koko uthando lukaThixo luthetha kona, ukuba sigcine imiyalelo yakhe.” (1 Yohane 5:3) Ngaloo ndlela, isibini sifanele siqeqeshele abantwana baso kuzinikelo lobuthixo kungekhona nje kuba sibathanda abantwana baso ngokunzulu kodwa kuba lo ngumyalelo kaYehova. (Duteronomi 6:6, 7) Sifanele sikuphephe ukuziphatha okubi kungekuphela nje kuba sithandana kodwa ngokuyintloko kuba sithanda uYehova, oya “kubagweba abahenyuzi nabakrexezi.” (Hebhere 13:4) Kwanokuba elinye iqabane libangela iingxaki ezinzulu emtshatweni, ukuthanda uYehova kuya kwenza elinye liqhubeke lilandela imigaqo yeBhayibhile. Ngokwenene, zinoyolo iintsapho ezithandanayo zize ziqinise olo thando ngokuthanda uYehova!
INTSAPHO EYENZA UKUTHANDA KUKATHIXO
13. Ukuzimisela ukwenza ukuthanda kukaThixo kuya kubanceda njani abantu bagcine amehlo abo enjonge kwizinto ezibaluleke ngokwenene?
13 Bonke ubomi bomKristu bupheleliselwe ekwenzeni ukuthanda kukaThixo. (INdumiso 143:10) Enyanisweni oko koko kuthethwa luzinikelo lobuthixo. Ukwenza ukuthanda kukaThixo kunceda iintsapho zigcine amehlo azo ejonge kwizinto ezibaluleke ngokwenene. (Filipi 1:9, 10) Ngokomzekelo, uYesu walumkisa wathi: “Ndeza kubangela ukwahlukana, kwendoda nxamnye noyise, nentombi nxamnye nonina, nomfazana nxamnye noninazala. Eneneni, iintshaba zomntu iya kuba ngabantu bendlu yakhe.” (Mateyu 10:35, 36) Kuzaliseka isilumkiso sikaYesu, abalandeli bakhe abaninzi baye batshutshiswa ngamalungu entsapho. Enjani yona ukuba buhlungu imeko! Sekunjalo amaqhina entsapho akafanele abe namandla ngaphezu kothando ngoYehova uThixo nangoYesu Kristu. (Mateyu 10:37-39) Ukuba ubani uyanyamezela nangona intsapho ichasa, abachasi basenokutshintsha xa bebona imiphumo emihle yozinikelo lobuthixo. (1 Korinte 7:12-16; 1 Petros 3:1, 2) Kwanaxa kungenzeki oko, akukho nto izuzwayo ngokuyeka ukukhonza uThixo ngenxa yenkcaso.
14. Umnqweno wokwenza ukuthanda kukaThixo uya kubanceda njani abazali benze izinto eziya kunceda abantwana babo?
14 Ukwenza ukuthanda kukaThixo kunceda abazali benze izigqibo ezilungileyo. Ngokomzekelo, kwezinye iindawo abazali badla ngokubajonga abantwana njengabaya kuba yinzuzo kamva, yaye banethemba lokunyanyekelwa ngabantwana babo xa baluphele. Ngoxa kukuhle yaye kufanelekile ukuba abantwana abadala banyamekele abazali babo abalupheleyo, olo lwazelelelo alufanele lwenze abazali baqhubele abantwana babo ekuthandeni izinto eziphathekayo. Abazali ababancedi abantwana babo xa bebakhulisela ekuthandeni izinto eziphathekayo ngaphezu kwezinto zokomoya.—1 Timoti 6:9.
15. Umama kaTimoti, uYunike, wayengumzekelo obalaseleyo njani njengomzali owenza ukuthanda kukaThixo?
15 Umzekelo omhle koku nguYunike, umama womhlobo oselula kaPawulos uTimoti. (2 Timoti 1:5) Nangona wayetshate nomntu ongelokholwa, uYunike, kunye noninakhulu kaTimoti uLoyisi, ngokuphumelelayo bakhulisela uTimoti ekulandeleni uzinikelo lobuthixo. (2 Timoti 3:14, 15) Xa uTimoti wayekhule ngokwaneleyo, uYunike wamvumela aphume ekhaya aze aqalise umsebenzi woBukumkani njengeqabane likaPawulos elingumvangeli wasemazweni. (IZenzo 16:1-5) Hayi indlela amele ukuba wavuya ngayo xa unyana wakhe waba ngumvangeli wasemazweni obalaseleyo! Uzinikelo lwakhe lobuthixo njengomntu omkhulu lwabonisa ukuba waqeqeshwa esemncinane. Ngokuqinisekileyo, uYunike waneliseka waza wavuyiswa kukuva iingxelo ezingobulungiseleli bukaTimoti bokuthembeka, nangona mhlawumbi wayemkhumbula.—Filipi 2:19, 20.
INTSAPHO NEKAMVA LAKHO
16. Njengonyana, yiyiphi inkxalabo efanelekileyo eyaboniswa nguYesu, kodwa yayiyintoni injongo yakhe ephambili?
16 UYesu wakhulela kwintsapho eyoyika uThixo yaye, njengomntu omkhulu, wabonisa inkxalabo efanelekileyo yonyana ngonina. (Luka 2:51, 52; Yohane 19:26) Noko ke, injongo ephambili kaYesu yayikukuzalisekisa ukuthanda kukaThixo, yaye kuye oku kwakuquka ukuvulela abantu indlela eya ebomini obungunaphakade. Oku wakwenza ngokunikela ubomi bakhe obufezekileyo njengedini lokuhlawulela uluntu olunesono.—Marko 10:45; Yohane 5:28, 29.
17. Liliphi ithemba elizukileyo elavulwa likhondo lokuthembeka likaYesu kwabo benza ukuthanda kukaThixo?
17 Emva kokufa kukaYesu, uYehova wamvusela kubomi basemazulwini waza wamnika igunya elikhulu, ekugqibeleni wammisela njengoKumkani woBukumkani bamazulu. (Mateyu 28:18; Roma 14:9; ISityhilelo 11:15) Idini likaYesu lavulela abanye abantu ithuba lokukhethwa ukuze balawule naye kobo Bukumkani. Kwakhona lavulela indlela lonke uluntu ukuze lunandiphe ubomi obufezekileyo emhlabeni kwiparadisi ebuyiselweyo. (ISityhilelo 5:9, 10; 14:1, 4; 21:3-5; 22:1-4) Elinye lawona malungelo abalaseleyo esinalo namhlanje kukuxelela abamelwane bethu ezi ndaba zilungileyo.—Mateyu 24:14.
18. Ziziphi izinto ezimele zikhunjulwe nokhuthazo oludluliselwa kwiintsapho nabantu ngabanye?
18 Njengokuba umpostile uPawulos wabonisayo, ukuphila ubomi bozinikelo lobuthixo kunesithembiso sokuba abantu banokunandipha iintsikelelo kubomi ‘obuzayo.’ Ngokuqinisekileyo, le yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokufumana ulonwabo! Khumbula ukuba, “ihlabathi liyadlula yaye kunjalo nangomnqweno walo, kodwa lowo wenza ukuthanda kukaThixo uhleli ngonaphakade.” (1 Yohane 2:17) Ngenxa yoko, enoba ungumntwana okanye ungumzali, indoda, okanye umfazi, okanye umntu omdala ongatshatanga, okanye akunabantwana, zama ukwenza ukuthanda kukaThixo. Kwanaxa ucinezelekile okanye usebunzimeni obungathethekiyo, ungaze ulibale ukuba ungumkhonzi kaThixo ophilayo. Ngaloo ndlela, ngamana izenzo zakho zingamvuyisa uYehova. (IMizekeliso 27:11) Yaye ngamana ihambo yakho ingakuzisela ulonwabo ngoku nobomi obungunaphakade kwihlabathi elitsha elizayo!
LE MIGAQO YEBHAYIBHILE INGAYINCEDA NJANI . . . INTSAPHO YAKHO YONWABE?
Ukuzeyisa kunokuhlakulelwa.—Galati 5:22, 23.
Ngokuba nembono efanelekileyo ngobuntloko, indoda nomfazi bafuna intsapho yabo iphumelele.—Efese 5:22-25, 28-33; 6:4.
Unxibelelwano luquka ukuphulaphula.—Yakobi 1:19.
Ukuthanda uYehova kuyawomeleza umtshato.—1 Yohane 5:3.
Ukwenza ukuthanda kukaThixo kulolona sukelo lubalulekileyo lwentsapho.—INdumiso 143:10; 1 Timoti 4:8.
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ISIPHIWO SOKUNGATSHATI
Asinguye wonk’ ubani otshatayo. Yaye asizizo zonke izibini ezitshatileyo ezikhetha ukuba nabantwana. UYesu wayengatshatanga, yaye wathetha ngokungatshati njengesiphiwo xa kusenziwa oko ‘ngenxa yobukumkani bamazulu.’ (Mateyu 19:11, 12) Kwakhona umpostile uPawulos wakhetha ukungatshati. Wathetha ngokungatshati nokutshata ‘njengesipho.’ (1 Korinte 7:7, 8, 25-28) Ngenxa yoko, nangona le ncwadi ubukhulu becala ixubusha ngemibandela yomtshato nokukhulisa abantwana, asifanele sizilibale iintsikelelo nemivuzo esisenokuba nayo ngokuhlala singatshatanga okanye ngokutshata size singabi nabantwana.