Honorim Dadi and Mami wea Olo

1. Wanem kaon nao iumi garem long dadi and mami bilong iumi, so hao nao iumi mas feel, and wanem nao iumi mas duim long them?

“LISTEN long dadi bilong iu wea mekem iu kamap, and no ting daonem mami bilong iu from hem olo distaem,” hem kaonsel bilong wanfela wise man wea stap bifor. (Proverbs 23:22) ‘Mi no savvy duim datwan!’ iu maet say. Winim way for ting daonem mami—or dadi—planti long iumi garem bigfela love for olketa. Iumi luksavvy hao iumi garem bigfela kaon long tufela. First samting, dadi and mami bilong iumi nao givim iumi laef. Hem tru hao Jehovah hem Man wea Givim laef, but sapos dadi and mami no stap, iumi kanduit for laef tu. No eni samting wea iumi fit for givim long dadi and mami bilong iumi hem garem hae price olsem laef. Then, tingim way for sakrifaesim seleva, for luk aftarem, shilling, and loving care wea insaed long way for helpem pikinini taem hem baby go kasem taem hem full grown. Dastawe, Word bilong God givim disfela stretfela kaonsel: “Honorim dadi and mami bilong iufela . . . mekem iufela no kasem trabel and stap longtaem long disfela earth”!—Ephesians 6:2, 3.

LUKSAVVY LONG NEED LONG SAED BILONG FEELING

2. Hao nao olketa full-grown pikinini savvy “peim back samting wea they kasem” from dadi and mami bilong them?

² Aposol Paul raet olsem long olketa Kristian: “Letem [olketa pikinini or granpikinini] nao learnim fasin for love-im God firstaem insaed long famili bilong themseleva and for peim back samting wea they kasem from dadi and mami and grandadi and granmami, from diswan hem samting wea God hapi long hem.” (1 Timothy 5:4) Olketa full-grown pikinini “peim back samting wea they kasem” taem they showim aot they ting hae long olketa year wea dadi and mami and grandadi and granmami showim aot love, work, and care for olketa. Wanfela way wea olketa pikinini savvy duim diswan hem for luksavvy hao olsem evri otherfela man, olketa olo needim love and way for comfortim them—planti taem they barava needim diswan. Olsem iumi evriwan, olketa need for savvy hao samwan ting hae long olketa. Olketa need for feelim hao laef bilong olketa garem meaning.

3. Hao nao iumi savvy honorim dadi, mami, grandadi and granmami?

³ So iumi savvy honorim dadi, mami, grandadi and granmami taem iumi talem them iumi love-im them. (1 Corinthians 16:14) Sapos dadi and mami no stap withim iumi, iumi mas remember hao way for story withim them hem samting they barava ting hae long hem. For raetem gudfela leta, ringim olketa long telephone, or visitim them bae mekem olketa barava hapi. Miyo, wea stap long Japan, raet olsem taem hem 82 year: “Dota bilong mi [wea hasband bilong hem wanfela traveling minister] hem say olsem long mi: ‘Mami, please iu “go-go” withim mifela.’ Hem sendem kam nem bilong kongregeson and telephone namba for each week. Mi savvy openem map and say: ‘Yes. Olketa long hia nao distaem!’ Mi say thankiu evritaem long Jehovah for blessing wea mi garem from pikinini hia.”

HELP LONG MATERIAL WAY

4. Hao nao kastom bilong Jew religion encouragim way for no garem feeling for olketa dadi and mami wea olo?

⁴ Waswe, way for honorim dadi and mami meanim tu for help long material way? Yes. Planti taem hem meanim diswan tu. Long taem bilong Jesus, olketa bigman bilong Jew religion keepim kastom wea say sapos wanfela man talemaot hao shilling or land bilong hem, hem “wanfela present wea [hem] dedicate-im long God,” hem free from responsibility for iusim samting hia for luk aftarem dadi and mami bilong hem. (Matthew 15:3-6) They nating garem feeling for sorry! Yes, olketa bigman bilong religion long datfela taem encouragim pipol for no honorim dadi and mami but for showim aot no gud fasin and selfish for no givim samting wea olketa needim. Iumi nating want for olsem!—Deuteronomy 27:16.

5. Nomata gavman bilong samfela kantri provide-im samfela samting, why nao way for honorim dadi and mami hem samfela taem meanim for givim help long saed bilong shilling?

⁵ Long planti kantri distaem, gavman garem olketa program wea provide-im samfela samting wea olketa olo needim long material way, olsem kaikai, kaleko, and haos. For join withim datwan, olketa olo seleva maet bifor keepim samfela shilling for helpem them taem they olo. But sapos olketa samting hia finis or no inaf, olketa pikinini honorim dadi and mami taem they duim samting wea they fit for duim for helpem olketa. Yes, for luk aftarem dadi and mami wea olo show aot man garem fasin for love-im God, wea meanim, hem worshipim Jehovah God, dat Wan Wea Startim famili arrangement.

LOVE AND WAY FOR SAKRIFAESIM SELEVA

6. Wanem nao samfela samting wea samfela duim for luk aftarem dadi and mami bilong them?

⁶ Planti full-grown pikinini duim samting for helpem dadi and mami bilong them wea kamap sik withim love and way for sakrifaesim seleva. Samfela they tekem dadi and mami bilong them for stap withim them or they muv go for stap klosap long olketa. Samfela they go and stap withim dadi and mami bilong olketa. Planti taem, olketa samting hia kamap olsem blessing for olketa dadi and mami and olketa pikinini.

7. Why nao hem no gud for duim samting kwiktaem long taem wea iu decide-im samting for dadi and mami wea olo?

⁷ But, samfela taem, olketa no kasem gudfela samting taem they duim olsem. Why? Maet bikos they kwiktaem tumas for decide-im samting or samting wea they decide-im hem from feeling nomoa. “Man wea wise hem tingting firstaem long samting wea hem bae duim,” Bible hem givim disfela warning. (Proverbs 14:15) For example, sapos mami bilong iu wea olo hem faendem hard for stap seleva and iu ting say iu savvy helpem hem sapos hem kam stap withim iu. Taem iu tingting firstaem long samting wea iu bae duim, maet iu savvy tingim olketa samting hia: Wanem nao hem really needim? Waswe, hem savvy kasem help from gavman? Waswe, hem want for muv? Sapos hem wantim, wanem nao olketa way wea diswan bae affectim living bilong hem? Waswe, bae hem lusim olketa fren bilong hem? Hao nao diswan maet affectim feeling bilong hem? Waswe, iu story abaotem olketa samting hia withim hem? Hao nao diswan bae affectim iu, partner bilong iu, and olketa pikinini bilong iu? Sapos mami bilong iu needim samwan for luk aftarem hem, hu nao bae duim? Waswe, iu savvy share-im disfela responsibility? Waswe, iu story abaotem diswan withim otherfela famili member?

8. Hu nao iu savvy askim taem iu decide long way for helpem dadi and mami wea olo?

⁸ From responsibility for luk aftarem olketa olo hem bilong evri pikinini insaed long famili, maet hem wise for havem wanfela famili meeting mekem evriwan savvy share for decide-im samting. For story withim olketa elder insaed long Kristian kongregeson or long samfela fren wea kasem sem samting savvy help tu. “Olketa plan savvy kamap no gud taem pipol no story tugeta,” Bible say, “but taem planti they story tugeta, bae they kasem gudfela samting.”—Proverbs 15:22.

SHOWIM AOT FEELING AND WAY FOR MEANIM OLKETA

9, 10. (a) Nomata olketa kamap moa olo, wanem nao iumi mas tingim taem iumi deal withim olketa olo? (b) Long eni samting wea wanfela full-grown pikinini duim for dadi and mami bilong hem, wanem nao hem mas evritaem givim long olketa?

⁹ For honorim dadi and mami wea olo, iumi need for showim aot feeling and way for meanim olketa. Taem olketa kamap moa olo, olketa maet faendem hem moa hard for wakabaot, kaikai, and rememberim samting. Maet they needim help. Planti taem olketa pikinini savvy worry tumas long dadi and mami and trae for givim them advice. But olketa olo they full-grown man wea garem planti wisdom and savvy, wea for full laef bilong them they luk aftarem themseleva and decide-im samting seleva. Living bilong olketa and way for respectim seleva maet garem faondeson long way wea they garem paoa olsem dadi and mami wea full grown. Sapos they feel olsem, maet they bae feel sorry or kros taem they mas letem olketa pikinini for bossim living bilong them. Samfela they againstim and faetem samting wea they ting say hem stopem way wea they independent.

¹⁰ No eni easy ansa hem stap for olketa problem hia, but way for letem dadi and mami wea olo for luk aftarem seleva and decide-im samting seleva sapos hem fitim, hem kaenfela fasin. Hem wise for no decide-im samting wea gud for dadi and mami sapos iu no story withim olketa firstaem. Maet they lusim planti samting from they olo. No tekem awe samting sapos iu no need for duim. Maet iu faendem hao taem iu no bossim tumas living bilong dadi and mami, way wea iu fren withim olketa bae moabeta. They bae moa hapi, and iu tu bae hapi. Nomata sapos iu need for strong long samfela samting wea bae helpem them, way for honorim dadi and mami meanim iu mas showim them respect wea they fit for kasem. Word bilong God givim kaonsel hia: “Iu mas stand ap front long man wea garem gray hair, and iu mas kaen long olo man.”—Leviticus 19:32.

KEEPIM STRETFELA TINGTING

11-13. Sapos wanfela full-grown man hem no fren gud withim dadi and mami bilong hem taem hem pikinini, hao nao hem savvy deal withim challenge for luk aftarem them taem they olo?

¹¹ Samfela taem, wanfela problem wea olketa full-grown pikinini face-im taem they honorim dadi and mami wea olo, hem join withim way wea they fren withim dadi and mami bilong them bifor. Maet dadi bilong iu no showim aot feeling and love, mami bilong iu hem laek boss tumas and raf. Maet iu still feel no gud, kros, or feel pain bikos they garem fasin wea iu ting dadi and mami no fit for garem. Waswe, iu savvy winim olketa feeling olsem?a

¹² Basse, wea grow ap long Finland, hem say: “Stepdadi bilong mi hem wanfela SS officer long Nazi Germany. Hem savvy kros kwiktaem, and then hem savvy duim no gud samting. Hem hitim mami bilong mi planti taem front long eye bilong mi. Wanfela taem wea hem kros long mi, hem swingim belt bilong hem and datfela belt hitim face bilong mi. Hem barava hitim mi strong and mi fall daon on top long bed.”

¹³ Nomata olsem, hem garem otherfela fasin tu. Basse say moa: “Long narafela saed, hem barava work hard and hem duim evri samting wea hem fit for duim for luk aftarem famili long material way. Hem nating showim aot love long mi olsem dadi, but mi savvy hem garekil long saed bilong feeling. Mami bilong hem raosem hem aot from haos taem hem young boy nomoa. Hem faet evritaem taem hem grow ap and hem go long war taem hem youngfela man. Mi savvy meanim fasin bilong hem lelebet and mi no blame-im hem. Taem dadi bilong mi kasem sik, mi want for helpem hem go kasem taem hem dae. Hem no easy, but mi duim samting wea mi fit for duim. Go kasem taem hem dae mi trae for go ahed olsem gudfela son and mi ting hem acceptim mi olsem.”

14. Wanem scripture nao fitim evri samting wea kamap, wea insaed diswan tu hem way for luk aftarem dadi and mami wea olo?

¹⁴ Long saed bilong famili, olsem long otherfela samting, kaonsel bilong Bible hem still fitim: “Havem olsem kaleko long iufela seleva fasin for feel sorry and care, kaenfela fasin, humble long mind, kwaet fasin, and long-suffering. Go ahed for show aot patient fasin long each other and forgivim each other sapos eniwan garem samting for complain abaot. Olsem Jehovah forgivim iufela, iufela mas duim olsem tu.”—Colossians 3:12, 13.

OLKETA WEA LUK AFTAREM OLO NEEDIM CARE TU

15. Why nao way for luk aftarem dadi and mami hem mekem man sorry tumas samfela taem?

¹⁵ Hem hard work for luk aftarem wanfela olo, planti different work, bigfela responsibility, and bigfela taem they insaed diswan. But planti taem barava hardfela samting hem long saed bilong feeling. Hem mekem man feel sorry tumas for lukim dadi and mami lusim gudfela health, tingting, and way for independent. Sandy, wea kam from Puerto Rico, hem say: “Mami nao main wan insaed famili bilong mifela. Mi feel no gud tumas taem mi lukim hem suffer. Firstaem, hem wakabaot no gud; then hem needim wanfela walking stik, then hem needim tufela stik, then wheelchair. Bihaen, hem kamap moa worse go kasem taem hem dae. Hem garem cancer long bone and needim samwan for luk aftarem hem evritaem—day and naet. Mifela swimim hem, feedim hem and read for hem. Hem barava hard—diswan moa tru long saed bilong feeling. Taem mi luksavvy mami bilong mi bae dae, mi krae bikos mi love-im hem tumas.”

16, 17. Wanem advice nao savvy helpem dat wan wea luk aftarem olketa olo for garem balance tingting long evri samting?

¹⁶ Sapos iuseleva kasem sem samting, wanem nao iu savvy duim for deal withim? Sapos iu listen long Jehovah long way for readim Bible and story withim hem thru long prea, diswan bae barava helpem iu. (Philippians 4:6, 7) Hem gud for mek sure iu kaikai gud and trae for sleep gud. Sapos iu duim diswan, bae iu fit, long saed bilong feeling and body, for luk aftarem dat wan wea iu love-im. Maet iu savvy arrange for havem lelebet spel from samting wea iu duim evriday. Nomata sapos hem hard for iu go holiday, hem wisefela samting for markem taem for relax. For garem samfela taem awe, maet iu savvy arrangim for samwan for stap withim dadi or mami wea sik.

¹⁷ Planti taem olketa wea luk aftarem olketa olo ting say they mas duim samting wea hem hard tumas. But no feel guilty from iu kanduit for duim samfela samting. Samfela taem, maet iu need for putim dat wan wea iu love-im insaed long hospital. Sapos iu wanfela wea luk aftarem olo, markem olketa gudfela goal for iuseleva. Iu mas balance-im samting wea dadi and mami bilong iu needim and tu bilong olketa pikinini bilong iu, partner bilong iu, and iuseleva.

STRONGFELA PAOA BILONG GOD

18, 19. Wanem promis for givim support nao Jehovah talem finis, and wanem experience nao show aot hem fulfillim datfela promis?

¹⁸ Thru long Word bilong hem, Bible, long loving way Jehovah provide-im kaonsel wea savvy barava helpem man for luk aftarem dadi and mami wea olo, but datwan hem no only help wea hem givim. “Jehovah hem stap klosap long olketa wea kolem hem,” hem nao samting wea man for raetem psalm hem talem. “Singaot bilong olketa for help bae hem herem, and bae hem sevem olketa.” Jehovah bae sevem, or keepim, olketa faithful wan bilong hem long olketa barava hardfela samting.—Psalm 145:18, 19.

¹⁹ Myrna, wea stap long Philippines, learnim diswan taem hem luk aftarem mami bilong hem, wea no savvy duim eni samting bikos hem kasem stroke. “No eni samting savvy mekem iu barava sorry olsem taem iu lukim wanfela wea iu love-im hem suffer, and hem no savvy talem iu ples wea hem feel pain,” hem nao samting wea Myrna raetem. “Hem olsem iu lukim hem easyeasy for draon, and iu no savvy duim eni samting for helpem hem. Planti taem mi nildaon and story long Jehovah abaotem hao mi feel tired tumas. Mi krae big olsem David, wea barava askim Jehovah for putim olketa tear bilong hem insaed wanfela botol and for rememberim hem. [Psalm 56:8] And olsem Jehovah promisim finis, hem givim mi strong wea mi needim. ‘Jehovah kamap olsem man wea supportim mi.’”—Psalm 18:18.

20. Wanem nao olketa promis long Bible wea helpem olketa wea luk aftarem olketa olo for garem gudfela tingting, nomata sapos dat wan wea they luk aftarem hem dae?

²⁰ Pipol say way for luk aftarem dadi and mami wea olo hem olsem wanfela “story wea no garem hapi end.” Nomata iumi luk aftarem olketa long best way, olketa olo savvy dae, olsem mami bilong Myrna. But olketa wea trust long Jehovah they savvy, dae hem no end bilong diswan. Aposol Paul hem say: “Mi garem hope long God . . . hao wanfela resurrection bae kamap for olketa wea raeteous and olketa wea no raeteous.” (Acts 24:15) Olketa wea lusim finis dadi and mami wea olo they kasem comfort from resurrection hope wea join withim promis bilong nambawan niu world bilong God wea “dae bae no moa.”—Revelation 21:4.

21. Wanem gudfela samting nao kamaot from way for honorim dadi and mami wea olo?

²¹ Olketa servant bilong God ting hae tumas long dadi and mami bilong olketa, nomata they kamap olo. (Proverbs 23:22-24) They honorim them. Taem they duim olsem, they kasem samting wea proverb hem talem: “Dadi and mami bilong iu bae hapi, and woman wea bornim iu bae hapi.” (Proverbs 23:25) And winim evri samting, olketa wea honorim dadi and mami bilong them wea olo they honorim and mekem Jehovah God hapi.