COUNSEL
(See also Correction; Guidance; Reproof)
about reconciliation or divorce: g99 4/22 6
aids in accepting counsel: w22.02 12-13
asking for counsel: w25.07 2-7; w22.02 13
not going from elder to elder: w25.09 6-7
when making decisions: w25.07 6-7; w05 7/1 31; w01 9/1 28-29; g90 2/8 19-20
when to ask: w25.07 6-7
at Life and Ministry Meeting: w25.07 9
avoiding partiality: w89 11/1 5
Bible counsel:
benefits: bhs 22-23; w09 6/1 4-7; w06 6/15 14; w04 8/15 4-7; op 21-26
unfailing: w00 6/1 29-31
uniquely wise: w90 4/1 13-15
courage needed when giving counsel: w86 9/15 11-12
discussion: w22.02 8-9, 11-19; it-1 515-516; w12 3/15 7-9; w99 1/15 21-24; w92 11/15 26-29; w86 9/15 10-20
elders: w25.07 8-13; w22.02 14-19; cl 165; od 143; lv 143; w13 11/15 22-23; w11 11/15 31; jr 131-132, 136-137; w09 6/15 18; w06 4/1 20; w97 3/15 16; w92 11/15 26-29; w91 10/15 18-19; om 140-141
about dress or grooming: w92 8/15 14
“admonishing you” (1Th 5:12): w11 6/15 27-28
auxiliary counselor: w21.08 24
balance with expressing appreciation: w97 8/1 17-18
being long-suffering: w06 5/1 20
being quick to apply elders’ counsel: w89 9/15 24-25
counseling longtime Christians: w92 11/15 20
danger of not sticking to Scriptures: w92 8/1 30
helping to reason on Bible principles: w96 9/1 22-23
Jesus’ example: w25.07 10; w11 11/15 30-31
‘judges and counselors’ (Isa 1:26, 27): ip-1 33-34
not counseling a sister alone: w06 9/15 27; w96 10/15 17; w93 2/15 15; w93 5/15 21-22; w91 11/15 21-22; w89 9/15 13
not counseling in the hearing of others: w94 11/1 21
not giving personal opinion: w96 9/1 22
not holding back needed counsel: w20.03 19-21; w91 10/15 18
not making decisions for others: w91 10/15 18
Paul’s example: w22.03 28-29
“readjust such a man” (Ga 6:1): w13 8/15 21; w93 5/15 21
respecting headship arrangement: w93 5/15 22
use of Bible and publications: w08 4/15 7; be 144; w93 5/15 20
when nothing has been published on a matter: w93 5/15 20
when one counseled reacts angrily: w06 5/1 21; w91 10/15 18
examples in giving counsel: w86 9/15 10, 17
David to Solomon: w24.11 10-11
Elihu: w25.07 12-13; ijwia article 5; w20.03 23; w19.06 23; mwb16.04 6-7; rj 2; w09 4/15 4-5; w07 9/1 13-14; w06 8/15 28; w95 2/15 29
Jehovah, to Cain: w18.07 17-18; w08 10/15 5; w99 2/1 21, 23
Jehovah, to Jonah: w86 9/15 17-18
Jesus Christ: w25.07 10; w12 3/15 8; w11 11/15 30-31; re 34; w86 9/15 16
King Lemuel’s mother (Pr 31): w00 2/1 30-31
Nathan (prophet): w16.02 29; w12 2/15 23-24; be 241-242; w99 1/15 24
parents help grown daughter undergoing temptation: w06 6/15 14
Paul: w22.02 15; si 231; w87 5/15 22-23; w86 9/15 12-13; w86 12/15 30
Peter (2Pe): w97 9/1 9
to youth who wished to quit service and meetings: g87 2/8 21-22
examples of accepting counsel: w22.02 11-12; w16.08 6-7; w06 6/15 14; w06 8/15 27; wt 137-139; w00 1/15 21; w97 4/1 22-23
David: w25.07 3-4
examples of rejecting counsel: w24.09 18
Rehoboam: w25.07 4-6; mwb23.03 12; w22.02 9
Uzziah (Azariah): w22.02 9, 11
experiences:
Bethel speaker counseled: w24.09 18
“you brothers do not have a clue”: w22.02 14
youth aspiring to be an elder: w24.10 16-17
follow-up discussions: w92 11/15 29
for brothers reaching out: w24.10 16-17
for dealing with personal wrongs: scl 29
for ones acting unwisely: scl 102
for parents: g 8/07 3
for sinners regardless of age: w18.08 11
freeness of speech when offering counsel: w06 5/15 15
from Jehovah: w18.12 19-20; it-1 515-516; lvs 241; w15 9/15 20-21; w12 4/15 29-30; w08 9/1 5-6, 8-9
advice: w25.07 2, 13; lff lesson 35; w18.12 26; it-2 150; w04 12/1 14
Job: ijwia article 5; w17.06 24-25
Proverbs: bm 15
from Jehovah’s organization: w98 5/15 19; w98 10/15 16
when seemingly inapplicable locally: w08 10/15 24; w88 8/15 29
from Jesus Christ:
pattern of counsel in Revelation (chart): w12 4/15 29; re 34
“Wonderful Counselor” (Isa 9:6): cf 23; cl 211-213; it-1 515-516; it-2 69-70; w07 5/15 6; ip-1 129-130
from mature friends: w20.11 21
from older people: scl 27; w86 2/1 28-29
from parents: w04 10/15 20-24; w86 9/15 11-12
from unbelievers: scl 28
from women: scl 27
goals of counsel: w92 11/15 28; w86 9/15 11-12, 15
realistic expectations: w86 9/15 20
how not to give counsel:
example of High Priest Eli: w20.03 19
example of Job’s “friends”: ijwia article 4; w20.03 22-23; w19.06 21-22; w06 8/15 28; w95 2/15 27-29
in prayer: w09 2/15 17; w86 5/15 21-22
while angry: w25.07 12-13
how to give counsel: w25.07 8-13; scl 28-30; w22.02 17-18; cl 165; w20.11 21-22; lvs 168; lv 142-143; w12 3/15 7-9; w09 6/15 18; w06 4/1 20; be 203-204; w00 6/15 22; w99 1/15 21-24; w99 6/15 13; w98 7/1 32; w92 11/15 26-29; w91 3/1 25; g91 2/8 22; w88 9/15 30; w87 10/1 19; w86 9/15 10-20; g86 1/22 6
about dress and grooming: w17.09 32
avoiding errors: w12 3/15 8; w97 3/15 16; w95 2/15 28-29
avoiding spiritual harm: scl 29
based on God’s Word: scl 28; w12 3/15 8-9; w88 8/15 30; w86 9/15 12-13
being firm for what is right: scl 29
chart “An Effective Counselor”: w97 3/1 26
determining whether necessary: w22.02 15-16
dignifying the recipient: scl 30; w94 2/1 25-29
first obtaining complete picture: scl 28; w12 3/15 7; w06 7/1 16; w05 7/15 19
honesty: w22.09 12-13
loving appeal: w22.02 15; w92 4/15 24-25; w86 9/15 12
mildness: scl 29; it-2 400; w03 4/1 24-25; w93 5/15 21; w92 11/15 26-27; w91 10/15 18-19; w91 11/15 20-21; w86 9/15 13
parents: w22.02 19
patience and kindness: scl 29; w22.02 18
praying for guidance: scl 28
privately: w94 11/1 21
“setting things straight” (2Ti 3:16): w13 4/15 14-16
to in-laws: g90 2/22 10
to one’s wife: w07 2/15 16-17
when asked for: w25.07 9-11
when not asked for: w25.07 11-12
how to receive counsel: w25.07 2-6; scl 27-28; w22.02 8-9, 11-13; w19.09 5; lvs 49; lv 46-47; w13 6/15 25-26; w11 7/15 29; jr 70-71; w04 7/15 29-30; w02 7/15 13; wt 136-143; w93 12/1 22; w91 9/1 23-24; g91 2/8 20-22; w90 11/1 31; om 139; w87 10/1 19-20; w86 3/1 19; tp 110-111
being responsive: w24.07 22; w22.02 8-9, 11-13; jr 70-71; w90 11/1 31
children and youths: w21.03 6-7; w10 11/15 4; yp2 174-180; w04 10/1 19
from elders: w18.03 31-32
from Jehovah: w15 9/15 26-27
getting the point: w87 4/1 27-30
mildness: w90 9/15 22
not hearing only what pleases: w25.07 5-6; w08 8/15 10-11
not imputing wrong motives: w97 5/15 27-28
when poorly given: w22.02 12-13
when questionable: w12 11/15 5; w05 7/1 31
when seemingly a personal matter: w12 8/15 13
when seemingly unjust: w12 3/15 29; yp2 176-177; w90 9/15 22
indirect counsel: w87 4/1 29
marriage counseling:
helping fellow Christian: w06 9/15 26-27
meaning of term: it-1 515
need for counsel: it-1 515; w04 8/15 3-4; w03 3/15 27; w90 11/1 29-31; w89 8/1 3; tp 109-111
self-help books: w19.05 23; w09 6/1 3-4; w07 4/1 3; la 4; w00 6/1 29
when not heeded: w05 4/1 9-10
who may give counsel: w22.02 14-17; w86 9/15 10-11
whom to listen to: w25.07 3-4; w08 4/15 14-15
worldly counsel: la 4; w00 6/1 29