Isahluko 14
Ukukhula Kunye Nimanyene
1, 2. (a) Ziziphi iinguqulelo ezenzekayo njengokuba usaluphala? (b) Amadoda ahlonela uThixo amaxesha okubhalwa kweBhayibhile aneliseka njani ekwaluphaleni?
LUNINZI utshintsho olwenzekayo njengokuba sikhula. Amandla ethu ayancipha ngenxa yobuthathaka bemizimba yethu. Xa sizijonga esipilini sibona imibimbi neenwele eseziqalisa ukuxuba—kwanokuqalisa kwempandla. Sisenokuba nengxaki yokulibala. Siqalisa ukuba nolwalamano olutsha njengokuba abantwana betshata, naxa kuzalwa abazukulwana. Kwabanye, ukufumana umhlala-phantsi emsebenzini kubutshintsha bonke ubomi babo.
2 Liyinyaniso elokuba, ukukhula ngeminyaka kunokuba luvavanyo. (INtshumayeli 12:1-8) Sekunjalo, cinga ngabakhonzi bakaThixo bamaxesha okubhalwa kweBhayibhile. Nangona bafayo ekugqibeleni, bazuza ubulumko nokuqonda, okwabazisela ulwaneliseko ebudaleni. (Genesis 25:8; 35:29; Yobhi 12:12; 42:17) Baphumelela njani ukuze baluphale bonwabile? Ngokuqinisekileyo yayikukuphila ngokuvisisana nemigaqo thina namhlanje esiyifumana ibhalwe eBhayibhileni.—INdumiso 119:105; 2 Timoti 3:16, 17.
3. Sisiphi isiluleko esanikelwa nguPawulos kumadoda namabhinqa akhulileyo?
3 Kwincwadi yakhe eya kuTito, umpostile uPawulos wanikela ukhokelo olusengqiqweni kwabo babesaluphala. Wabhala: “Amadoda awalupheleyo makabe ngcathu ngokwemikhwa, andileke, abe ngaphilileyo engqondweni, aphile elukholweni, eluthandweni, ekunyamezeleni. Ngokunjalo abafazi abalupheleyo mabaziphathe ngokuhlonel’ uThixo, bangajindi, bangakhotyokiswa nayiwayini eninzi, babe ngabafundisi boko kulungileyo.” (Tito 2:2, 3) Ukuthobela la mazwi kunokukunceda ujamelane nocelomngeni lokwaluphala.
YIBA BHETYEBHETYE XA ABANTWANA BAKHO BEZIMELA GEQE
4, 5. Abazali abaninzi basabela njani xa abantwana babo beshiya ikhaya, yaye abanye bayamkela njani loo meko intsha?
4 Ukutshintsha kwendima yethu kufuna sibe bhetyebhetye. Hayi indlela ekuyinyaniso ngayo oku xa abantwana abakhulileyo beshiya ikhaya baze batshate! Le iba yinto yokuqala ekhumbuza abazali abaninzi ukuba bayaluphala. Nangona bevuyiswa kukukhula kwabantwana babo, abazali badla ngokuxhaliswa kukungaqiniseki enokuba bakwenzile kusini na konke okusemandleni abo ukuxhobisela abantwana babo ukuzimela geqe. Yaye basenokubakhumbula gqitha.
5 Kuyaqondakala ukuba, abazali bayaqhubeka bezikhathaza ngempilo-ntle yabantwana babo, kwanaxa bengasekho ekhaya. Omnye umama wathi: “Ukuba ndingasoloko ndinxibelelana nabo, ukuze ndiqiniseke ukuba baphilile—oko kungandonwabisa gqitha.” Omnye utata ubalisa oku: “Xa intombi yethu yashiya ikhaya, kwakunzima gqitha. Sasivakala isikhewu sayo kuba sasisoloko sisenza izinto kunye.” Aba bazali baye bahlangabezana njani nokushiywa ngabantwana babo? Kwiimeko ezininzi, bazixakekisa ngokunceda abanye abantu.
6. Yintoni encedayo ukugcina ulwalamano lwentsapho lufanelekile?
6 Xa abantwana betshata, indima yabazali iyatshintsha. IGenesis 2:24 ithi: “Indoda yomshiya uyise nonina, inamathele kumkayo, babe nyama-nye ke.” (Akekeliswe sithi.) Ukuhlonela imigaqo yobuthixo yobuntloko nokuba nocwangco kuya kubanceda abazali benze izinto ngendlela efanelekileyo.—1 Korinte 11:3; 14:33, 40.
7. Sisiphi isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo omnye utata awasihlakulelayo xa iintombi zakhe zashiya ikhaya ukuze zitshate?
7 Xa iintombi ezimbini zesinye isibini zatshatayo zaza zasishiya, eso sibini sasiva eso sikhewu kubomi baso. Ekuqaleni, indoda yabaqumbela abakhwenyana bayo. Kodwa xa yacinga ngomgaqo wobuntloko, yaqonda ukuba abayeni beentombi zayo babethwele iimbopheleleko zemizi yabo. Ngoko ke, xa iintombi zayo zazicela icebiso, yayibuza uluvo lwamadoda azo, ize iqinisekise ukuba iwaxhasa ngokwenene. Abakhwenyana bayo ngoku bayijonga njengomhlobo yaye bayalamkela icebiso layo.
8, 9. Abanye abazali baziqhelanisa njani nemeko yokuzimela geqe kwabantwana babo abakhulileyo?
8 Kuthekani ukuba aba basandul’ ukutshata, izinto abazenzayo aziphosakele ngokwezibhalo, kodwa abenzi izinto abazali babo abacinga ukuba zezona zilungileyo? Esinye isibini esinabantwana abatshatileyo sicacisa oku: “Sisoloko sibanceda babone imbono kaYehova, kodwa ukuba asivumelani nesigqibo sabo, siyasamkela size sibaxhase size sibakhuthaze.”
9 Kwamanye amazwe aseAsia, abanye oomama bakufumanisa kunzima gqitha ukwamkela ukuzimela koonyana babo. Noko ke, ukuba bahlonela umyalelo wobuKristu nobuntloko, bafumanisa ukuba abaxabani kangako noomolokazana babo. Omnye umfazi ongumKristu ufumanisa ukuba ukuhamba koonyana bakhe entsatsheni “kumenza abe nombulelo ongapheliyo.” Kuyamchukumisa ukubona ubuchule babo bokunyamekela iintsapho zabo ezintsha. Kwelinye icala, oku kuthetha ukuba uphungulekile umthwalo wasenyameni nasengqondweni abebewuthwele nendoda yakhe njengokuba bekhula.
UKOMELEZA AMAQHINA ENU OMTSHATO
10, 11. Sisiphi isiluleko esingokweZibhalo esiya kunceda abantu baphephe eminye imigibe yeminyaka yobuqina?
10 Abantu basabela ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo xa besiba ngamaqina. Amanye amadoda atshintsha isinxibo ezama ukubonakala emancinane. Amabhinqa amaninzi akhathazwa ziinguqulelo ezibangelwa kukuyeka ukuya exesheni. Okulusizi kukuba, abanye abantu abangamaqina bawenza abe nengqumbo nekhwele amaqabane abo ngokubanokalisa umdla wothando kubantu abaselula besini esahlukileyo. Noko ke, amadoda akhulileyo ahlonela uThixo, ‘aphilileyo engqondweni,’ ayayiphepha iminqweno engafanelekanga. (1 Petros 4:7) Ngokufanayo namabhinqa aqolileyo asebenzela ukulondoloza ukuzinza kwemitshato yawo, kuba ewathanda amadoda awo yaye enqwenela ukukholisa uYehova.
11 Ephefumlelwe, uKumkani uLemuweli wabhala amazwi okudumisa ‘umfazi onesidima’ obuyekeza indoda yakhe ‘ngokuyiphatha kakuhle, kungabi kakubi, yonke imihla yobomi bakhe.’ (Akekeliswe sithi.) Indoda engumKristu imele iyixabise indlela umfazi wayo ahlangabezana ngayo nako konke ukuphazamiseka ngokweemvakalelo abanako xa ekwiminyaka yobuqina. Uthando lwayo luya kuyishukumisela ukuba ‘imdumise.’—IMizekeliso 31:10, 12, 28.
12. Izibini zinokukhula njani zimanyene njengokuba iminyaka ihamba?
12 Ebudeni beminyaka yokuxakeka nikhulisa abantwana, nobabini naye ngovuyo nayibekela ecaleni iminqweno yobuqu naza nanikela ingqalelo kwiintswelo zabantwana benu. Xa bemkile lixesha lokuba niphinde ninikele ingqalelo kubomi benu bomtshato. Enye indoda ithi: “Xa iintombi zam zalishiyayo ikhaya, ndaqala phantsi ukuthandana nomkam.” Enye indoda ithi: “Ngamnye wethu uyazikhathaza ngempilo yomnye yaye siyakhumbuzana ngemfuneko yokwenza umthambo.” Ngoko ukuze bangabi nesithukuthezi, le ndoda nomfazi wayo bamema amanye amalungu ebandla abatyelele kwikhaya labo. Ewe, ukubonisa umdla kwabanye kuzisa iintsikelelo. Ngaphezu koko, kuyamkholisa uYehova.—Filipi 2:4; Hebhere 13:2, 16.
13. Kunayiphi indima ukukhululeka nokunyaniseka njengokuba isibini sikhula kunye simanyene?
13 Musa ukuvumela ukunxibelelana neqabane lakho kuphele. Ncokolani ngokukhululekileyo. (IMizekeliso 17:27) Enye indoda igqabaza isithi: “Sizama ukuqondana ngakumbi ngokunyamekelana nokuba nolwazelelelo.” Umkayo uyavuma esithi: “Njengokuba sesikhulile, siyakuvuyela ukuphunga iti kunye, ukuncokola nokusebenzisana.” Ukukhululeka nokunyaniseka kwenu kungalomeleza umanyano lwenu lomtshato, kulwenze lomelele lungoyiswa ziintlaselo zikaSathana, ongumqhekezi wemitshato.
KUNANDIPHENI UKUBA KUNYE NABAZUKULWANA BENU
14. UTimoti kubonakala ukuba wancedwa njani nguninakhulu wakhula engumKristu?
14 Abazukulwana ‘basisithsaba’ sokwaluphala. (IMizekeliso 17:6) Ukuba kunye nabazukulwana kunokuyolisa ngokwenene—kunokonwabisa yaye kuhlaziye. IBhayibhile iyamncoma uLoyisi, umakhulu owathi, yena nentombi yakhe uYunike, wafundisa umzukulwana wakhe olusana onguTimoti iinkolelo zakhe. Lo mfana wakhula esazi ukuba unina noninakhulu babeyixabisa inyaniso yeBhayibhile.—2 Timoti 1:5; 3:14, 15.
15. Ngokuphathelele abazukulwana, luluphi uncedo olunokunikelwa ngoomakhulu nootatomkhulu, kodwa yintoni abafanele bayiphephe?
15 Ngoko, nantsi inkalo oomakhulu nootatomkhulu abanokuba luncedo ngokwenene kuyo. Boomakhulu nootatomkhulu, sele nibafundisile abantwana benu ukwazi iinjongo zikaYehova. Ngoko ninokwenza okufanayo nakwisizukulwana esilandelayo! Abantwana abaninzi abaselula kuyabachulumancisa ukuva oomakhulu nootatomkhulu bebalisa amabali eBhayibhile. Kakade ke, aniyithabatheli kuni imbopheleleko katata yokubethelela iinyaniso zeBhayibhile kubantwana bakhe. (Duteronomi 6:7) Kunoko, niyongezelela kuyo. Ngamana ningathandaza ngokufanayo nomdumisi owathi: “Thixo, musa ukundishiya kude kuye ebuxhegweni nasezimvini; ndide ndiyixele ingalo yakho kwisizukulwana esitsha, nobugorha bakho kubo bonke abaya kuza.”—INdumiso 71:18; 78:5, 6.
16. Oomakhulu nootatomkhulu banokukuphepha njani ukubangela ingxabano kwintsapho yabo?
16 Okulusizi kukuba, abanye oomakhulu nootatomkhulu babatefisa gqitha abazukulwana babo kangangokuba bade baxabane nabantwana babo abakhulileyo. Noko ke, mhlawumbi ububele benu obunyanisekileyo busenokwenza kube lula ngabazukulwana benu ukuzityand’ igila kuni ukuba abaziva bekhululekile ukuchazela abazali babo izinto. Maxa wambi abaselula baye babe nethemba lokuba oomakhulu nootatomkhulu babo abaqondayo baya kubathethelela kubazali babo. Nimele nenze ntoni? Sebenzisani ubulumko nize nikhuthaze abazukulwana benu bathethe ngokukhululekileyo nabazali babo. Nisenokubacacisela ukuba oku kuyamkholisa uYehova. (Efese 6:1-3) Ukuba kunokwenzeka, nisenokumvulela indlela lowo uselula ngokuthetha nabazali bakhe. Bachazeleni ngokuphandle abazukulwana benu ngoko nikufundileyo ebudeni beminyaka. Ukunyaniseka nokungqala kwenu kunokubanceda.
YENZANI UHLENGAHLENGISO NJENGOKUBA NIKHULA
17. Kukuphi ukuzimisela komdumisi amaKristu aluphalayo afanele akuxelise?
17 Njengokuba iminyaka ihamba, niya kufumanisa ukuba anisakwazi ukwenza konke ebenikade nikwenza okanye konke eninqwenela ukukwenza. Yiyiphi indlela umntu ahlangabezana ngayo nokwaluphala? Engqondweni yakho usenokucinga ukuba useneminyaka engama-30 ubudala, kodwa ukuzikrwaqula esipilini kukuxelela enye into. Musa ukuphoxeka. Umdumisi wabongoza uYehova wathi: “Musa ukundilahla ngexesha lobuxhego; musa ukundishiya akuphela amandla am.” Zimisele ukukuxelisa ukuzimisela komdumisi. Wathi: “Ke mna ndiya kuhlala ndilindile, ndongeze endumisweni yakho yonke.”—INdumiso 71:9, 14.
18. UmKristu oqolileyo unokulisebenzisa ngokuyingenelo njani ixesha lokudla umhlala-phantsi?
18 Abaninzi baye bakulungiselela kusengaphambili ukwandisa indumiso yabo kuYehova bakuba befumene umhlala-phantsi emsebenzini. Omnye utata odla umhlala-phantsi uthi: “Ndakuceba kusengaphambili endandiya kukwenza xa intombi yethu igqibile esikolweni. Ndazimisela ukuba ndiya kuqalisa ubulungiseleli bexesha elizeleyo, yaye ndathengisa ishishini lam ukuze ndikwazi ukukhonza uYehova ngakumbi. Ndathandazela ukhokelo lukaThixo.” Ukuba sele usondela kwiminyaka yokudla umhlala-phantsi, thuthuzelwa koko kwavakaliswa nguMdali Ozukileyo: “Kude kuse ebudaleni ikwandim, kude kuse ezimvini ndiya kunityatha emagxeni mna.”—Isaya 46:4.
19. Sisiphi isiluleko esinikelwa kwabo baluphalayo?
19 Ukuziqhelanisa nemeko yokudla umhlala-phantsi emsebenzini akulula. Umpostile uPawulos waluleka amadoda akhulileyo ukuba abe “ngcathu ngokwemikhwa.” Oku kufuna ukuzeyisa, ukunganikezeli kutyekelo lokufuna ubomi obutofotofo. Kusenokufuneka ube nocwangciso uze uziqeqeshe ngakumbi kunangaphambili xa usidla umhlala-phantsi. Ngoko, xakeka ‘usoloko unokuninzi kokwenza emsebenzini weNkosi, usazi ukuba ukubulaleka kwakho akulolize ngokunxibelelene neNkosi.’ (1 Korinte 15:58) Yiba banzi kwizinto ozenzayo ukuze uncede abanye. (2 Korinte 6:13) AmaKristu amaninzi akwenza oku ngokushumayela iindaba ezilungileyo ngenzondelelo ngokuvisisana nobudala bawo. Njengokuba ukhula, ‘phila elukholweni, eluthandweni, nasekunyamezeleni.’—Tito 2:2.
UKUSINGATHA IMEKO YOKUPHULUKANA NEQABANE LAKHO
20, 21. (a) Kule nkqubo yezinto ikhoyo, ekugqibeleni yintoni emele yahlule izibini ezitshatileyo? (b) UAna ungumzekelo omhle njani kumaqabane asentlungwini yokufelwa?
20 Kuyinyaniso nangona kubuhlungu ukuba kule nkqubo yezinto, izibini ezitshatileyo ekugqibeleni zahlulwa kukufa. Amaqabane angamaKristu afelweyo ayazi ukuba abo abathandayo balele, yaye anentembelo yokuba aya kubabona kwakhona. (Yohane 11:11, 25) Kodwa sekunjalo abuhlungu kukuphulukana nawo. Lingahlangabezana njani naloo meko eli lisaphilayo?a
21 Ukukhumbula oko kwenziwa ngomnye umntu ekuthethwa ngaye eBhayibhileni kuya kukunceda. UAna waba ngumhlolokazi kwisithuba seminyaka esixhenxe etshatile, yaye xa sifunda ngaye, wayeneminyaka engama-84 ubudala. Sinokuqiniseka ukuba waba buhlungu xa waphulukana nendoda yakhe. Wahlangabezana njani nale meko? Wayenikela inkonzo engcwele kuYehova uThixo etempileni imini nobusuku. (Luka 2:36-38) Ngokuqinisekileyo into eyanceda uAna kuloo ntlungu nobulolo bakhe njengomhlolokazi yinkonzo yakhe awayeyinikela ngomthandazo.
22. Abanye abahlolokazi nabahlolo baye bahlangabezane njani nobulolo?
22 Elinye ibhinqa elineminyaka engama-72 ubudala nelineminyaka elishumi lingumhlolokazi lithi: “Eyona nto ibilucelomngeni kum kukungabi naqabane endinokuncokola nalo. Indoda yam yayingumphulaphuli olungileyo. Sasidla ngokuncokola ngebandla nangesabelo sethu kubulungiseleli bamaKristu.” Omnye umhlolokazi uthi: “Nangona ukuhamba kwexesha kuphilisa, ndifumanise ukuba kuchane ngakumbi ukuthi, koko umntu akwenzayo ngexesha lakhe okumnceda aphile. Ukwimeko entle yokunceda abanye.” Omnye umhlolo oneminyaka engama-67 uvuma esithi: “Eyona ndlela iluncedo yokuhlangabezana nentlungu yokufelwa kukuzibhokoxa ekuthuthuzeleni abanye.”
UKUXATYISWA NGUTHIXO USAKUBA UKHULILE
23, 24. Yiyiphi intuthuzelo enikelwa yiBhayibhile kwabalupheleyo ngokukodwa abo bangabahlolokazi?
23 Nangona ukufa kulithabatha iqabane olithandayo, uYehova uhlala ethembekile, akaze akushiye. UKumkani uDavide wamandulo wavuma ingoma esithi: “Ndicele nto-nye kuYehova, ndifuna yona: Ukuba ndihlale endlwini kaYehova yonke imihla yobomi bam, ndibone ubuhle bukaYehova, ndiphicothe etempileni yakhe.”—INdumiso 27:4.
24 Umpostile uPawulos ubongoza esithi: “Babeke abahlolokazi abangabahlolokazi ngokwenene.” (1 Timoti 5:3) Isiluleko esilandela lo myalelo sibonisa ukuba abahlolokazi abafanelekayo abangenazalamane zisondeleyo kusenokuba kwakufuneka ibandla libaxhase ngezinto eziphathekayo. Sekunjalo, ingongoma yalo myalelo wokuba ‘babekwe’ iquka ukubaxabisa. Hayi indlela abanokuthuthuzeleka ngayo abahlolokazi nabahlolo kukwazi ukuba uYehova uyabaxabisa yaye uya kubalondoloza!—Yakobi 1:27.
25. Luluphi usukelo abasamele babe nalo abalupheleyo?
25 ILizwi likaThixo eliphefumlelweyo livakalisa oku: “Ubuhle bamadoda amakhulu zizimvi.” ‘Zisisithsaba sokuhomba esifunyanwa endleleni yobulungisa.’ (IMizekeliso 16:31; 20:29) Ngoko, enoba utshatile okanye akutshatanga, qhubeka kwakhona ubeka inkonzo kaYehova kuqala ebomini bakho. Ngaloo ndlela uya kuba negama elihle noThixo ngoku nethemba lobomi obungunaphakade kwihlabathi elingayi kuba nazintlungu nakwaluphala.—INdumiso 37:3-5; Isaya 65:20.
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Abazukulwana ‘basisithsaba’ sabantu abalupheleyo.—IMizekeliso 17:6.
Ukwaluphala kunokuzisa amathuba angakumbi okukhonza uYehova.—INdumiso 71:9, 14.
Abakhulileyo bakhuthazwa ukuba babe “ngcathu ngokwemikhwa.”—Tito 2:2.
Amaqabane asentlungwini yokufelwa, nangona ebuhlungu ngokunzulu, anokufumana intuthuzelo eBhayibhileni.—Yohane 11:11, 25.
UYehova uyabaxabisa abathembekileyo.—IMizekeliso 16:31.
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