ISIFUNDO 4
Ukuzimela
KUSHO UKUTHINI UKUZIMELA?
Abantu abakwazi ukuzimela bangabantu ongabethemba. Uma ubanikeza umsebenzi bawenza bawuqede, futhi bawuqeda ngesikhathi.
Ngisho noma izingane zisencane, zingakwazi ukufunda ukuzimela. Incwadi ethi Parenting Without Borders ithi, “Lapho izingane zinezinyanga ezingu-15, zisuke sezikwazi ukwenza lokho abazali abazitshela kona. Uma sezinezinyanga ezingu-18, zisuke sezithanda ukulingisa lokho okwenziwa abazali bazo. Ezindaweni eziningi abazali baqala ukuqeqesha izingane zabo ukuba zisize emisebenzini yasekhaya kusukela zineminyaka engu-5 kuya kwengu-7, futhi ngokuvamile ziyenza kahle leyo misebenzi nakuba zisencane.”
KUNGANI KUBALULEKILE?
Kwezinye izindawo izingane esezikhulile ziyahamba emakhaya ziyohlala zodwa, kodwa ziyahluleka bese zibuyela emakhaya. Kwezinye izikhathi lokhu kubangelwa ukuthi abazali basuke bengazange bazifundise ukuphatha imali, ukwenza imisebenzi yasendlini neminye imisebenzi yansuku zonke.
Yingakho kungcono ukufundisa izingane zakho manje, ukuze zikwazi ukuzimela lapho sezindala. Incwadi ethi How to Raise an Adult ithi, “Awufuni ukulokhu ubatotosa baze babe neminyaka engu-18, bese ubashiya kanjalo uthi abazimele.”
INDLELA YOKUFUNDISA INGANE UKUZIMELA
Yinike imisebenzi okumelwe iyenze endlini.
OKUSHIWO IBHAYIBHELI: “Kukhona inzuzo kuzo zonke izinhlobo zomsebenzi onzima.”—IzAga 14:23.
Izingane ezincane ziyathanda ukusebenza nabazali bazo. Ukunika izingane zakho imisebenzi okufanele ziyenze endlini kungakusiza uthuthukise leso sifiso sazo.
Abanye abazali bayanqena ukukwenza lokho. Bathi izingane zabo zinikezwa umsebenzi wesikole omningi, ngakho asikho isidingo sokwenezela neminye imisebenzi yasekhaya.
Nokho, izingane ezenza imisebenzi yasekhaya zivame ukuphumelela kangcono esikoleni kunalezo ezingayenzi. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi imisebenzi yasekhaya izifundisa ukujwayela ukusebenza, nokuwuqeda umsebenzi eziwunikiwe. Incwadi ethi Parenting Without Borders, ithi “lapho siyiziba ingane uma ifisa ukusisiza, siyifundisa ukuthi akubalulekile ukusiza abanye . . . Lokho kuyenza ilindele ukuba yenzelwe yonke into.”
Njengoba le ncwadi ibonisa, uma izingane zenza imisebenzi yasendlini zifunda ukusiza abanye hhayi ukuzicabangela zona kuphela. Zifunda nokuthi zinendima ebalulekile ekhaya nokuthi ukusiza kuwumsebenzi wawo wonke umuntu.
Siza izingane zakho zifunde ukubhekana nemiphumela yamaphutha azo.
OKUSHIWO IBHAYIBHELI: “Lalela iseluleko wamukele isiyalo, ukuze uhlakaniphe esikhathini esizayo.”—IzAga 19:20.
Uma izingane zakho zenze into engalungile njengokulimaza into yomunye umuntu, gwema ukukufihla lokho ezikwenzile. Izingane zingakwazi ukubhekana nemiphumela yezenzo zazo, njengokuxolisa noma ngokulungisa leyo nto eziyiphulile.
Uma izingane zazi ukuthi kufanele zibhekane nemiphumela yezenzo zazo, lokho kuzozisiza ukuba
zikhulume iqiniso futhi zivume amaphutha azo
zingabeki abanye icala
zingenzi izaba
zixolise uma kufanele